ok obviously my husband is a CD or I wouldnt be here, I total accept him and I have no problem with his CDing except for....
He says he feels like something is missing. He can pretty much dress anytime he wants to, granted he does work 5 days a week, so by anytime I mean on his time off. I have no problem with him dressing as long as it doesnt interfere with something we've already planned on doing.
Typically when he dresses I have nothing to do with it, i'll surf the net or watch a movie while he showers and becomes Paige. After he's dressed he'll ask how she looks and I give compliments, we take a few pics and then he gets online and chats or surfs the net while I watch a movie or whatever.
We do not do anything sexual when he's dressed, it just seems to bother me and im not sure why. I have no problem sleeping in the same bed with him dressed, I just cant seem to do anything sexual. Now I used to, I didnt have any problem with it, but I dont know what changed.
Anyway back to him saying something is missing, he said he wishes I would be more involved. Not just sexual either, involved in helping him dress etc. And I want to be.
He's offered to stop CDing, but we both know it's not gonna change anything, he's still gonna want to do it. Im not asking him to change for me, I would never do that.
I think my biggest problem is he wants me to be the dominate one in the relationship, not always mind you, just when he's paige. I have a major shyness about me. I can talk about things i'd like to do while he's dressed and such but when it comes down to it I cant do it. I think im also worried "OMG what if someone finds out" Which I know I know its our bedroom who cares what anyone else thinks.
I guess im asking for advice on baby steps that I could offer him to help him with whats missing. We talk openly about the CDing, but he just gets frustrated thinking that he's forcing me to do something I dont want to do which isnt true at all. So I figure if I can get some advice maybe I can surprise him and help him with whats missing when he's Paige and so he doesnt feel like when he dresses he's here alone.
I know ive rambled and I hope I made sense lol Thanks in advance for any advice offered