I agree with the above post...This is one of those issues that could be debated and discussed all month long. However, the simple fact is that we are all men wearing women's clothing. Sure, it can be (and is) frustrating for us, but we were all born men, not women. As much as I enjoy an encounter with any open-minded, accepting person while enfemme (or not), I do not believe it is reasonable for us as crossdressers to expect everyone we encounter to be completely comfortable with our behavior. As harsh as it sounds, the world is not a fair place.
In brief, I think it is wonderful that many of us have reached a comfort level that will allow us to venture out into the world enfemme, but, to a large extent, the reactions we receive are beyond our control. I believe that we should revel in the unique joy that comes from the expression of our femme selves, and not dwell on issues that are only going to leave us feeling side-tracked and frustrated.
Jus tmy :2c: