After having a discussion with my SO, & the "issues" i have sometimes with his c/d, i was sat for alittle while , working out what my "real" issue with the c/d was & i realised that ( this is purley my own view for myself) that its like "a part of him il never really have" !!
i call it the "stranger" . i carnt get inside his head & physicaly understand why he wants to do it, and i have come to terms with it alot, ( mainly due to everyone on this forum whom have helped me understand it more ).
But..... its that "part" of him il never really be a-part-of !! ( if that makes any sense ) !!
I felt i wanted to post this in here, to sort of see if some of you can understand what im saying with the c/d.
I love him for him, ( that will NEVER change ), i think mentaly sometimes for the SO you try and "see though" the c/d and tell yourself its STILL the person you fell in love with & are with , even though sometimes you feel "shut out" from it
Anyways, sorry if this sounds a tad stupid, but its my feelings @ moment with the c/d