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    Question cought wearing a bra

    I did a bad thing today. I wore a bra under my work shirt and jacket. A woman I work with patted me on the back and gave me a little rub telling me what a good worker I was, as she was rubbing her hand up and down my dack. She stoped on my bra three times when her face got red and she left quickly.. What should I do?

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    stop wearing the work shirt and wear a mini skirt? not serious no idea but what the heck it might work, or you could ask her for some wardrobe tips.

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    well it's time for total truth between you. she knows you should sit her down and tell her..

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    well it's time for total truth between you. she knows you should sit her down and tell her..
    Looks like the cats outta the bag. You have no idea what she may think of Cross dressers or you being one, so a candid conversation may help if she is comfortable talking about it. I'll bet her mind and imagination can easily put pictures in her head that are far "worse" than the reality.

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    A similar thing happened to me about 10 years ago.

    The secretary where I worked was also in charge of renting the apartments and rooms that the company had. One day, for whatever reason she had, she went into my apartment looking through my drawers. I never knew what she was looking for. But she found all my girlie things. (Bras, panties, etc...) She was always nice to me... Until then. She has hated me ever since. (I know that 'hate' is a strong word, but...)

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    Hi and good luck with the bra issue. mabey telling her a little white lie is in order. Like the outher day when you rubed my back I noticed you touched my back brace and then you got red in the face and walked away and I just wanted to ask you why! I hate to lie but if you tell her the truth she might out you at work. well just a thought.
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    you touched my back brace
    please please be honest the woman knows the difference between a bra and a back brace, like someone who went out with mascara on when the girl notice he said NO !!!!!! girls know they are not dumb
    and then you wonder why the gg get mad at us don't lie about it

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    I wish I could say that sitting down and talking it out would work but I don't know your work situation or the openess of this woman. She either was embarresed that she invaded your space or excited that she caught you.

    I would take it very carefully and judge her behavior before you try and confront the issue. She will either accept it or reject it but the most important thing is to not let it stop you from doing what you love.

    I also don't know you enough to give too much advice but you either will use this as a wake up to realize that work and home are two seperate things or that you need to be more open about who you really are.

    I agree with MJ that if confronted (in a mature and rational way) that you be honest. I have a feeling this women is far more embarresed than you are and has no intention of adding to it.

    Stay as calm as you can and don't panic

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    Caught in Bra

    You must talk to her and as soon as possible, in an open and friendly way. If you don't she may talk to others and cause greater problems.

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    I agree with Viktoriya. Why do you have to discuss your underwear with anyone? It seems to me that it's nobody's business. I would do nothing. Underwear is not an appropriate subject to discuss in the workplace.

    Do you question what others wear? No? then why would someone question your underwear? . . . . . . OK, so you think she has already questioned it and is likely to start talking about your underwear around the shop. So maybe you should not wear a bra to work. I guess it's sort of like "If you can't stand the heat, stay out of the kitchen", isn't it?

    Well, many of us do wear women's underwear to work and many of us don't want anyone to know about it. So wear panties, wear pantyhose, wear stuff you can hide. But a bra! Geez, girl. Just look around you. You can't hide a bra! Half the population wears them and it's just SO obvious. EVERYONE can see a bra. What ever were you thinking? You just can't hide the fact that you are wearing a bra.

    Now, seriously, you did ask what we think you should do about it now. I say do nothing. Don't do anything at all. The damage, if any, is done. At least one person at work knows about it. Maybe she will gossip and maybe she won't but what's done is done, now. Bringing up the subject again is sure to get it talked about. Just leave it alone. And, unless you plan on becoming more comfortable with others knowing that you do wear a bra occasionally, I would leave the bra at home in the future.

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    You shouldn't discuss anything until you're sure. STOP WORRYING! It may be nothing after she's thought about for a while. After all... People are people... Well, you know what I mean. Just relax and take it one step at a time and I'm sure it will work out... Maybe she will be a good shopping buddy.
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    caught wearing a bra

    I must agree with the other girls,be honest,don't I repeat don't lie about it. Look I was buying panties one day when this woman behind me started to give me some static and the woman checker said dont worry about it sweetie, we all wear them and that was it, no big deal,just reax and be honest

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    Double standard a sad reality. Leave it at home.

    I would not wear one, to work, at all. Sadly, the cruel double standards, are here, may always be. A guy found out wearing women's clothes, or underwear, at work, will be marked. A woman wearing men's clothes, is totally accepted, at work places.

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    I think you could go to her and ask her if she is OK, that she seemed to be upset when she was in your office yesterday. That opens the door. If she is receptive to more discussion, you can say that you think you frightened her and you did not man to.
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    I prefer to tell everyone on a "need to know" basis. It's like talking to the IRS, they don't ask, you don't volunteer information, just answer the question.

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    Thumbs up cought wearing a bra

    Don't Worry about it I have not gone without Wearing a bra and panties for about two years! When I am at home on my days off I wear a camp shirt and a sleevless mock turtleneck, and women's jeans, and a pair of shoes with a 2 and 1/4 inch heel. I have NOmen's underwear of any find, and I do not want any

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    I'm really curious as to how no one noticed up in the front. Loose clothes? On the main topic, I would not say anything. I don't know what kind of environment you work in so to play it safe, I would not come out with it to anyone or her. She is not 100% sure of anything at the moment. You can say you wear a man bra because you have man breasts if she ever confronts you. There are such cases. I would not confess as I don't get that she is a close and caring friend. Worst case, if she came out in the open at work, you can sue for sexual harassment. If a man brushed a woman's back a few times at work, he can be sued so it works both ways. (Seriously hope this will never happen). I'd stick to wearing panties to work if I have the urge. Nowaday, so many boys undies looks like girls undies anyhow. HOM and Calvin Klein has tongs for guys. Now how fem is that!

    Good luck! I hope I didn't sound silly!
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    I used to wear one to work in the winter, when I wore heavy shirts and jackets. As for your situation, wait to see if her attitude changes towards you. If it does, ask her why she is treating you differently and if she says anything about the bra, just say you were afraid it was about that. Then explain to her that you have a rash around your nipples and your shirt rubbing against them causes you a lot of irritation and pain. It was almost unbearable until you decided to try a bra, and it has helped a lot..

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    I like Carin's idea. It opens the door if she wants to talk and also shows her that you're sensitive. Could be the best syuggestion as to how to approach the problem. I don't think letting it sit there until something bad happens is the right way. Be honest and give information. No sexual overtones!
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    "the thing is, I lost a bet with a friend and the loser had to wear a bra for the whole day" or just tell her the truth
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    Too late to do much now dear.I don't underdress with a bra for that reason.I did once at work and same thing.A girl came up and gave me a hug and a big hello and then a funny look on her face but she never said anything.Same day i tell a joke and a guy puts his hand on my shoulder and says thats a good one.Now i'll only wear panties Much safer Justabit

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    Sexual harassment

    If you had been the one rubbing her back and stopping at her bra she could have easily had a suit filed against you. She had no business rubbing any part of you. Not that it is not a bad thing understand BUT All is fair in crossdressing!! If she says something to you ar anyone else you might ask her in private why was she rubbing you and you feel violated, it might make her think twice before she says something to the wrong person..
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    Quote Originally Posted by marie354 View Post
    One day, for whatever reason she had, she went into my apartment looking through my drawers. I never knew what she was looking for
    Money? Jewelry? Were other tenants missing things? Think you had a thief there, and the last I heard was that kind of thing was illegal.
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    tiffanysharon you are so "busted"

    i feel honesty is the best policy if you lie then you have to make up more lies you can end the cycle and be true

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    As an engineer, I expect to not be touched by anyone at any time. If they have a problem with what they feel when they touch me, that is their problem, but I will say nothing, other than express my displeasure with them touching me if it is more than I am comfortable with.

    If someone were to ask me about it, now that I have time to think about it, I would mention that that is an inappropriate question for a business environment. If asked outside of work, I would say I have a medical condition that I do not want to talk about.

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