There have been one or two stories of a CD approaching another CD with very mixed results. What if there was a way to introduce one's self without saying something blatant like, "Hi! I notice you are a crossdresser. I am a crossdresser too." Something that would convey the sentiment that you are friendly, non-threatening and sympathetic. I was thinking of something like, "Do you know Sister Kate?"
The problem is that such a phrase could not long remain a secret. Another problem is to allow enough, appropriate persons, know of it for it to be effective. Still, there must be a way to introduce one's self without making it too obvious that the other has been read, or embarassing them in public or cornering them in some dark alley for privacy. I suppose 'secret' handshakes or signs are just right out.
Minerva