Question for those with supportive SOs...

[Rachel Morley]

I often post that my dressing is "our thing" and not "my thing". To be totally honest with you, I am only accepting of myself because I've lost all of my guilt feelings because my wife Marla was, and still is, so encouraging of me to be feminine and also her being so loving towards me when I am dressed in women's clothes.

I really seriously doubt I would be the slightest bit interested in dressing without her in my life. Earlier this year she went to London for a week without me, her son went to his Dad's. I had ample opportunity to dress for an unlimited amount of time, yet I didn't dress ...... not even once! When Marla came home she was quite surprised because she expected me to be wearing her clothes every second of the day so that I would feel "closer to her" while she was away. All I felt was bland emptiness and wanted her home.

[faltenrock]

Yes I would, I've been a CD all my life. My CD is not really related to my wife, would be nice if it was - but it is not.

I've never heard of any CD, who suddenly could stop dressing up forever.

Doreen

[Sandra]

I would hope that Nigella would continue to dress, after all she has been full time for the past two years and before that it was a case of as and when. It is what she does and who she is and me not being there shouldn't make any difference.

[Suzie S.]

My God, I hope that doesn't happen for a long, long, long time! My life would be so empty without my wife. She is my soulmate, and best friend. I couldn't begin to think how I would be without her. But one thing for sure, I would still be crossdressing. It just a part of me, and would continue under any circumstances.

[Mitch23]

my wife is tolerant but not supportive. if i lost her, god forbid, i would continue to dress. I am Mike and I am Mitch and that is how i will be until i die. I could not kill off Mitch, she's too beautiful!

mitch

[Carroll]

I would stay at the same level since I have kids. My daughter see's a counseller and I brought up the qeustion of her seeing me dressed. She had no answer at the time because it has never been brought up in her many years in the profession. She is going to researsh it and get back with me. I would try to find another SO that is supportive. This is Ithaca, NY!

[sami1952]

I guess i would continue cding, mostly because i didn't marry my so because she let me cd but because we were in love and if the case was reverse i 'm sure she would date again.as they say"life goes on "

[Dixie]

[SIZE="3"]Thanks everyone for your posts.
always Dixie[/SIZE]

[Teddie]

I'd probably dress more. It would help with the sever depression that I'd feel.

[Dixie]

[SIZE="3"]Ok Gurls I'll come clean tomorrow morning at 7:00 A.M. my wife goes under the knife. She has Ovarian cancer and the doctors are going to remove both of her overies. I am scared out of my mind but did not want to burden you ladies with my problems. Some here know about what we are going through and I thank them for their support. I am sorry for keeping such a secret but I felt it was for the best, now I'm asking for all your prayers and positive thoughts.

I would be so lost without my love.

I want to thank you for your support in advance.
I'm weak I had to get drunk tonight just to deal with the stress, but will make it, and be there for her tomorrow.She is my whole world and I do not want to think of living in it without her so this has to work![/SIZE]

[O2B Barbara]

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[LilSissyStevie]

Dixie, my prayers are with you both. God bless.

[Andi]

Dixie, I'm so sorry you have to face this challenge with your SO. Know that we are with you in spirit and prayer and she is in God's hands now. I'm proud to see you so supportive of her in her time of need like she's been supportive of you in your quest.

[Dixie]

[SIZE="3"]Thanks everyone, she didn't actually go in until 9:00 A.M. this morning,......and now we wait. [/SIZE]

[Dixie]

[SIZE="3"]Ok, Good news and Bad news. First the bad: The doctors decided to just run a scope to start with and found way more than they bargined for when they looked in side. There is a lot of blood and she has tumors on her bowels as well.
The good: they are benine (sp?) so that is a relief. they are going to send her to Tucson to have a specialists perform the surgery to make sure that they get it all out.[/SIZE]

[gwenrob43]

I've thought about this for some time. Neither of us is in great health, mine is probably better than my wife's, so it's very possible she will precede me. I will miss her immensely, but I will probably dress more often. I will get my ears pierced, I love long dangling earrings.

[kerrianna]

Dixie, I'm glad to hear that your wife got through the first surgery ok. That must be a relief, and a relief to know what you're dealing with. It sounds hopeful that they think it is benign, although it does sound like a gruelling ordeal she will be going through.

Just keep thinking positive thoughts, both of you, and make sure you look after yourself too. She will need you at your best hon, for comfort and support.

You both are in our thoughts and prayers. Please let us know how it goes.

[Dixie]

[SIZE="3"]Thanks so much for the support. I cannot put into words how much it means to me, but reading your kind words as well as others has me all misty eyed.

The love you have shown for us (relative strangers) is overwhelming and has not gone Unapperciated. THANK YOU SO MUCH![/SIZE]

[O2B Barbara]

Dixie,

No cancer, what a relief. Hope the surgery goes well.

Hugs

[christie]

I would take a break from dressing, but I know I would continue to dress. It would probably be more regularly and more extensive. But there would definitely be a break while I get my emotions back in check.

Christie

[Lovely Rita]

Dressing is a big part of who I am. I think I would continue. She would want me to continue living my life. She loves me selflessly and so to do so I would need to live all of me.

My opinion

[Angie G]

I'd still dress and maybe use some of her things so to feel close to her
Angie

[Mitch23]

Sorry shes not out of the woods yet but pleased that the outlook is better than hoped,

love

mitch

[Babette]

Dixie, et al,

I don't know that I could answer your question at the moment. We have been married for 31 years. I posed the question to her and she automatically said, "Sure you would"! If it happened, I fear it would take a very long time to deal with the grieving and depression. I would like to say that I would eventually return but the process of living can never be static, only evolving.

Best of luck to you both.

Babette