I have spent hours, long hours in a protracted argument with my girlfriend.
I don't know how I can go on any longer. It is all so meaningless, so pointless. Her arguments are circular, self refferential, illogical. Not one piece of logic, my thoughts, feelings or evidence is accepted by her. I can't convince someone who won't even consider that they could be wrong. I am accused of 'looking into it too much' 'going too far (with my reasoning)' and then I'm called 'disgusting', 'selfish' or that I 'obviously don't want the relationship'. At one point she even said that all crossdressers should be lined up and shot. She goes on to say that the relationship is the only thing that gives her life any meaning... sigh. She says that I should change, that it is my fault that I say I can't because I don't want to and don't see anything wrong with it. She refuses to accept the posibility that she could change any of her opinions, come to accept my desires, live without the relationship or that proffessional help could help her in any way.
I have been trying to tell her for years now that I cannot keep restraining my needs. We tried counselling, my psychologist said that I needed to be more assertive, hers said she needed to learn to accept it or move on. Then she went to a social worker who apperently agrees with her and says that I should be able to change for her while the couple counseller we saw said that while I seem both unable and unwilling to change and she refuses to acknowledge the possibility that she could then she can't help and suggested we go see someone else who would more likely know more about the subject.. but my girlfriend since has said that the social worker thinks seeing them is a bad idea as because they are gay they may be biased so we should see get another refferral from my doctor for yet someone else.
I really care about her, I don't want her to go through this pain but I can't have all her pains rule me.. and its not just crossdressing where this keeps happening.
When finally she realised I really meant it and would no longer be ruled by her feelings she said that the relationship was effectively over, that it was my choice and that she would take an OD tomorrow and that she hopes I'd find it 'worth it'.
I'm thinking of calling the police and telling them after she goes to work tomorrow morning.
So I feel an intense agony in my guts. Collosal fear. Massive self-doubt and a lot of guilt. I can't think at all clearly but I just don't see how I could do anything else.