Today in Las Vegas I experienced what has to be the ultimate in acceptance -- mainly from my wife, but also from some others! (Actually it was yesterday -- it is now 5:00 AM, and while I should be asleep, I'm on such a natural high, I haven't been able to go to sleep.)
Anyway, at 7:00 PM yesterday evening, I walked down the aisle in a beautiful wedding dress, and my wife and I "got married." (Actually, it was technically a renewal of our vows since we are already married -- that said, this ceremony was done using my femme name, so the ceremony had a very special meaning in that it was my feminine personna marrying my wonderful wife.)
I had anticipated it would be an extra special life event, but it has far exceeded my wildest dreams!!!
More important, there are some deep and significant issues subtending "our wedding" that speaks to so many of us on here, including some SO's who might be struggling with CD issues!!!
The chapel sent a limo for us early -- they have a package where they take you to a special spa-like room next o their chapel for you to get ready. A professional make-up artist and hair stylest was awaiting me there. Now I've done my make-up before -- my wife has even helped do my make-up before. But, what this person did for me was nothing short of incredible!!! (My wife took one look at my make-up and said she wished she had gotten a make-up package, too, b/c she had never seen such a magnificent transformtion! The make-up artist spent an entie hour just on my eyes -- and wow did they ever look great!)
I'll tell you, I have always known how blessed I am to have such an accepting and supportive wife, but this event marked a special point and level neither of us anticipated. How do I know? Well, for a while now, my wife has had a "funny bone in overdrive" attitude about this ceremony. While it WAS her idea we do this while on a Las Vegas trip, she thought it somewhat funny that I wanted to be a bride. She even said she hoped it wouldn't hurt my feelings if she expressed a few chuckles.
Guess what? There were ABSOLUTELY NO chuckles!!! She did shed some tears -- tears she described as being of joy and happiness -- tears that came deep from within her soul. She said she realized two things. First, here was her soulmate fulfilling a life-long dream -- and how important that was to me, and to our corporate self. Second, here was her soulmate pledging his "other self" to her in every way, til death do we part!!!
Louise and Carin: I do so wish we could have worked it out to have done your ceremony and our's together with one couple standing up for the other and vice-versa. I know your ceremony in a few weeks will be as wonderful as ours!!!
To the forum: may we all know this type of freedom and commitment -- and love!!!
The chapel staff couldn't have been more accepting, either!!! Sure, they were being paid, but you can often tell when people are being sincere or not. These people were sincere -- and supportive, and detailed-oriented in making "our day" as special as for any other couple!!! We need society to start accepting us like these wonderful people accepted me and my wife. They worked hard to make our ceremony all that we wanted it to be -- all that we could ever have dreamed it could be!!!!!!!
Well, maybe I can finally get some sleep. Guess I needed to share all this with the forum!!!
Okay -- one more thing I know that some of you will be asking: Yes there was a photographer there and plenty of pictures were taken. And, yes, once we get the proofs back, etc., I will post some. (You know, my wife was so taken with the make-up that she asked to take some photos of her own when we got back to our hotel. She still can't get over the wonderful transformation the make-up artist did on me!!!)
Originally Posted by Bonnie D
Congrats!
I can only imagine what it must have been like to be a real bride marrying your true soul mate and life partner ..... I've only ever been a pretend bride. However, my real wedding day was, without question, the very best day in my life (so far).
