This is for to everyone to post.
I do try to always speak of Nigella as she/her or Nigella when talking to others, some times I do slip up but that is not very often, most people that we know also say she/her, if any one does slip up she doesn't get offended or upset, but does just give them a gentle reminder that she likes to be addressed as she/her.
So how do you feel if you are addressed as "he" etc when enfem? and how does your SO address you.