Consider this post my thinking out loud rather than a strong opinion.
This board is great because it provides advice, support, and guidance to everyone with few strings attached. I know the site has helped a lot of members deal with the challenges of a lifestyle outside of societal norms. That's an awesome thing.
However, I sometimes question the advice that is given by many members of this community. Questions like, "Should I get a pedicure?" or "Should I shave my legs?" are always answered with a "YES! No one cares!" Usually followed by statements such as "It's all mental" and "I get compliments." The advice is well intentioned, but it's not always practical or completely truthful.
It often seems that reality of others perceptions is lost in trying to live out the fantasy of being a woman (I use fantasy in the least offensive way possible and for lack of a better word. I know it's far from that for many of us). My point is that we shouldn't ignore that if we pluck our eyebrows and paint our nails there's a good chance others will notice and think it's strange. People do notice and most do think it's strange.
I'm not going to get into how to handle the perceptions of others and how to change those perceptions, but I wanted to express a view that doesn't seem to be talked about much in this community.
I'm completely open to alternative viewpoints and would love to hear from those of you who agree or disagree with me. Now it's mirror time, I've been out of town for nearly a month and my eyebrows are in serious need of a plucking!