Dear Abby

[Alice B]

Was reading the paper today and the "Dear Abby" column had a quaestion from a woman who's boy friend came out to her. She asked Abby what she should do. Abby said to spend some time with him dressed as his other person and see how she feels before making any decision. Abby went on to say that cross dressing is not abnormal and that many men have successful marriages and familys. That everyone has quirks. Can't wait till my wife reads this and hope she will follow this advise and let me dress in front of her.

[Frankie-Dear]

Awesome.... I love Dear Abby. That woman is the very epitome of wisdom, grace, and charm. I would love to meet her, someday. Seriously.

[Alice B]

I have met her and her sister and have had dinner with her. She is a great person.

[christie]

I read one of her columns a few years ago, about a minister who was also a crossdresser. She gave the info and links to Tri-Ess, after going to those sites I realized that I wasn't just some weirdo who liked to dress up in womens clothes and that there were others out there. It was the start of me coming to terms with my fem side.

Christie

[Marcie Sexton]

Perhaps we are finally getting the acknowledgement we need and deserve...

[Lourie James]

Abby is very well informed on cross dressing. It's nice to see some one like Her in the main strem press.

[SandyR]

Sucsessful Marriage here....and she knows and supports.

Hugs.

SandyR

[SherriePall]

My wife reads those columns and doesn't say a word. I can only imagine how she felt about Abby's advice on that one.

[ColleenCD]

As a CD'er, I make it a habit to read Abby's column each day for this exact subject, hoping each day a reader has written a letter asking for help with a CD'ing SO. After reading the article this morning I was encouraged, thinking to myself, a better reply couldn't have been written if I did it myself.

It's nice to know a syndicated columnist has the wisdom and understanding coupled with the proper respectable platform to educate so many. Thank you Abby!

Colleen

[sherri]

I don't think Abby referred to CDing as "normal", but she is apparently tolerant on the subject. Here's what she actually said in her reply:

"If I really cared about him, I think I'd ask to spend some time with his 'other self'. Then I'd make up my mind about whether or not I could accept the situation. Many cross-dressers are happily married and have perfectly normal marriages except for this one 'quirk'. (And let's face it -- is anyone completely quirk-free?)"

[MeraLehanga]

Abby. Luv U my darling for being so understanding, wish there were lots like her.

[ronna]

I've thought about that, too, Alice, about showing her how can look.
In the end I think it would change her view of me and I'm afraid she wouldn't like what she saw. Everybody has to make their own choices, and advice aside, I'm not prepared to take that path.

[rickie121x]

Has anyone thought about sending a link to "Dear Abby" re this forum? It might be useful to a lot of people.

Rickie

[ronna]

BTW, "Abby" has been dead for years, and so has her "sister," Ann Landers.
I don't know who's writing her advice columns now but I think it's just a syndicated thing.

[Eileen]

What a nice response and from someone who has a world wide audience! Her advise was positive and thoughtful. We as a group need to keep getting the message out, that we are good family people living good productive lives.

Eileen

[Echo Logical]

just googled "dear abby cross-dressing" a whole bunch of letters come up.

I am going to save those links to give to my wife when she has questions.

[Angie G]

I read Dear Abby all the time she is great
Angie

[Sasha Anne Meadows]

She has a pretty good understanding of this.

[helenr]

I understand that the Dear Abby and Ann Landers columns are written by a daughter and a neice--some relatives of them. I think the comments she offered were decent--not smarty ones about a transvestite being a bit kooky,etc. It hasn't always been so enlightened in her column. I do think, however, that if a girlfriend, potential spouse isn't really keen on crossdressing, eventually problems will arise and kill the relationship. I really think that about 90+% of women just can't live with 'another woman' and is there really a male transvestite who isn't at some level desiring to be a female, playing the female role? It's more than wearing nylon panties for this 60 year young transvestite. hugs, helen

[Alice B]

I should have known that she and er sister had passed. It was many years ago that I had dinner with her (twice) and the person that sponsered the dinner has also passed. At least those that continue the advise are steady with what they say and use past responses to similar questions. I asked my wife if she say the answer yesterday and she said yes. She further said it was the original response to a similar question years ago was what made her accept my dressing and not go nuts over it. That is good, but I had hoped that she would allow me to dress in her presence based upon the answer. No luck there - yet.

[Mitch23]

I understand that the Dear Abby and Ann Landers columns are written by a daughter and a neice--some relatives of them. I think the comments she offered were decent--not smarty ones about a transvestite being a bit kooky,etc. It hasn't always been so enlightened in her column. I do think, however, that if a girlfriend, potential spouse isn't really keen on crossdressing, eventually problems will arise and kill the relationship. I really think that about 90+% of women just can't live with 'another woman' and is there really a male transvestite who isn't at some level desiring to be a female, playing the female role? It's more than wearing nylon panties for this 60 year young transvestite. hugs, helen

I know I do and I know that it is one of my wife's fears! In fact in my head, I am often playing the female role in our intimate moments.

Mitch

[Cindi Ann Kelly]

I really miss dear abby. She was a very enlightened woman.
I enjoyed her commentary on cross dressing over the years.

Cindi

[sissystephanie]

I know I do and I know that it is one of my wife's fears! In fact in my head, I am often playing the female role in our intimate moments.

Mitch

I am sure that many of us do exactly as Mitch said, play the female role in our heads. At times my loving wife, who was very supportive of my CD activities all our 49 1/2 years together,took it a step further. She would become the man for me! But I like being a man and also being a woman at times. As Karren says, the best of both worlds! Hope I quoted you correctly, Karren!

Sissy

More Girl than man sometimes