BIG Development

**uknowhoo** · 07-08-2007, 10:19 PM

As some of you are aware, my wife and I have had our challenges, both prior to and since I came out to her (again) last fall.

Well, yesterday, I was planning on leaving a bit early to go to the TGEA (local supp group) meeting/annual cook-out, so I'd have the requisite ton of time to make myself presentable.

As luck would have it, a friend called to offer to take our son out to the lake for the afternoon... an offer we all gladly accepted.

Well, my wife, very much to her credit, has been making a concerted effort to understand her feelings about the whole CDing thingy of late (in counselling and otherwise). God bless her soul, not only did she suggest that I stay at home to get ready, but offered her wardrobe and her assiantance. She wound up helping me with my wig, make-up and even polished my toes for me - all firsts!!! Then to top it off, she snapped a few pics of me on my way out and let me know that she genuinely thought I looked very pretty.

My astonishment was almost as overwhelming as my gratitude and joy. It would seem that yesterday was a bit of a turning point in our relationship.

**Bobbie cd** · 07-08-2007, 10:22 PM

Wow, Tammi, that does sound like a considerable breakthrough. Congratulations. I hope this leads the two of you to a closer and better relationship!

Bobbie

**Barb Valentine** · 07-08-2007, 10:26 PM

Wow that's just so great to hear Tammi
It's good to see that progress has been made
(In the right direction)
((Do we get to see those pictures))

**Sandygal** · 07-08-2007, 10:28 PM

[SIZE="4"]WOW!! and I will say it again, WOW!![/SIZE]

**marie354** · 07-08-2007, 10:30 PM

I may have felt similar last November when my GF first allowed me to dress FT.

GO! Girl! Just watch out for that "pink fog". It's quick, and can be overwhelming...

BTW... Are you going to post the pix?

**Daintre** · 07-08-2007, 10:40 PM

Tammi, I have searched the Forum today for some uplifting posts, I thank you for posting. It sounds like your dear wife is trying so hard, bless her for that. I hope that you both can keep the progress going...good luck my friend

**Rachel Morley** · 07-08-2007, 10:42 PM

Absolutely fantastic news!!! I am so, so, very, very, happy for you Tammi. Your wife sounds like a wonderful lady. It seems like she is really trying to understand this whole cding thing. Marla has said to me that cding (for her anyway) was rather like trying new food; you have to have a taste of it at least 10 times before you start to get a liking for it. I sincerely hope your wife thinks the same way. Hang in there, even more happiness is (hopefully) just around the corner!

Rachel

**Miss Lulu** · 07-08-2007, 10:49 PM

I think all your wife needed was some time to adapt to crossdressing. Now she's showing good faith and attitude by offering to help you out ... and even commenting your great look.

You are in luck to have a supporting SO. I have that luck too. Show your gratitude to her!

**trannie T** · 07-08-2007, 10:57 PM

You are stopping by the florist on the way home tomorrow?

**Joy Carter** · 07-09-2007, 12:17 AM

Originally Posted by trannie T

You are stopping by the florist on the way home tomorrow?

She will trannie T, she will.

**Andi** · 07-09-2007, 01:17 AM

Originally Posted by trannie T

You are stopping by the florist on the way home tomorrow?

Exactly, stop somewhere or do something really, really special for her. This is a wonderful change of heart for you both. I hope time will prove it's for good and the relationship can grow a long time.

**Sheri 4242** · 07-09-2007, 01:25 AM

Excellent news!!! And, to go along with the flowers, how about dinner and a movie -- she's trying and you'll reap benefits from everything you do to let her know how special she is!!!!!!!

**Sandra** · 07-09-2007, 03:34 AM

Tammi that is wonderful news, here's hoping it continues for both of you .

**PheonaP** · 07-09-2007, 03:59 AM

Absolutely stunning Tammi. You just need to let your wife know HOW MUCH you are "My astonishment was almost as overwhelming as my gratitude and joy."
She appears to be one awesome lady.

**Karren H** · 07-09-2007, 05:16 AM

That's fantastic, Tammi!! Lucky girl!!

Karren

**CharleneCD** · 07-09-2007, 05:44 AM

Tammi, What wonderfull news. There is no doubt she has found some acceptance for your dressing.

**Veronica E. Scott** · 07-09-2007, 06:08 AM

That is super good news best I have read today .What ever you are doing keep it up Best of luck to you both.

**Sarah cd** · 07-09-2007, 06:10 AM

That is fantastic news i hope you do somthing special for her in return. As it does take a lot for a woman to except our dressing as i have found with my wife as she is very up and down with it all. Enjoy your dressing

**Emily Ann Brown** · 07-09-2007, 07:26 AM

WOO HOO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Nothing here but happiness for ya sis.

Emily Ann

**Maureen Henley** · 07-09-2007, 07:46 AM

Hooray for Tammi's wife!!! Make sure her husband thanks her properly. I have a very accepting wife, I know how wonderful it can be.

As other posters mentioned, don't let the "pink fog" cloud your judgement. A rare and beautiful flower like her needs gentle, slow and careful nuturing.

**Jenny Beth** · 07-09-2007, 09:34 AM

Great news Tammi, not only is she trying to understand it all but be part of it as well. And since she's loaned you some of her things I see a joint shopping trip on the horizon, I'll bet money she's going to pick your next outfit.

**uknowhoo** · 07-09-2007, 09:47 AM

Thanks ladies so much for your responses.

I'm trying to come up with an appropriate demonstration of my appreciation. I've been thinking of a very oversized arrangement of flowers delivered, but am hoping to come up with something a lil more special yet.

As far as the pink fog is concerned, I'm definitely quite aware of that (though a few reminders certainly can't hurt). While I can't say that I've had my Tammi'sworth (if there is such a thing

), I'm cool with keeping Tammi's profile on the low side for a lil while - I just don't want to push it. I'm also aware that while she's made a beautiful gesture, that there might be a lil bit of an emotional reaction from her the other way - maybe not (the ol' now I like it, now I don't (thanx Rachel n Marla

)). I just need to remain aware of that possibility too.

In any case, I'm still kinda basking in the afterglow of the experience, and the my wife and I have have both been feeling very close since!

Thanx again y'all for your support.

**Frankie-Dear** · 07-09-2007, 09:48 AM

Soooooo pleased for you both. May it only bring you closer.

**Mitch23** · 07-09-2007, 09:58 AM

Originally Posted by Rachel Morley

Absolutely fantastic news!!! I am so, so, very, very, happy for you Tammi. Your wife sounds like a wonderful lady. It seems like she is really trying to understand this whole cding thing. Marla has said to me that cding (for her anyway) was rather like trying new food; you have to have a taste of it at least 10 times before you start to get a liking for it. I sincerely hope your wife thinks the same way. Hang in there, even more happiness is (hopefully) just around the corner!

Rachel

On the radio this morning it said 11 times - oh well what the heck! What a special lady your wife is - in fact all our partners are, wherever they stand with our CD. I'm inspired when I hear these stories because there's hope for us whose wives haven't quite reached that place yet. And you're very wise to cool it - give her a big present and a huge hug from me!

Mitch

**Jenna1561** · 07-09-2007, 10:30 AM

That is super news Tammi! I'm so, so happy for you.

Jenna

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