Wendy I'm so sorry you are in this situation. Thank God it wasn't 15 more feet, it does matter. I can identify with the lack of acceptance/understanding you feel. In reality though, as each of us ages day by day, we and our fem self dies a little more. It's one less day to do the things we like doing. I also feel wives or SOs have no clue how torn up we can get inside when we face or think about our situation and the mortality of our lives.
The attitude I've tried to adopt is to just savor each moment, opportunity and thrill that comes by being Andi, even if it is seldom and even if I get no support or understanding. Life is now and I am here and that's still good.