Crossdressing and Latent Homosexuality

[Mitch23]

I would always have regarded myself as straight but I find that I am starting to feel a strong attraction for a pretty T girl and now feel that my sexual boundaries are being challenged

Mitch

[Dana Carlton]

I have had sex with men both while dressed and not dressed and I always put myself in a female frame of mind when I am with them. If that makes any sense to anyone. It does to me.

Make sense to me. I have been with men in the past, as a direct result of my crossdressing. When dressed I want to walk, talk, act, be and do everything female. I will always put myself into a totally female frame of mind. As crazy as it sounds, when I was with a man, it was always a male on female relationship to me, though it was really two males.

[KimberlyS]

As long as I can remember back, I was always confused on being gay with growing up with the society and my family view of:

men wearing female clothes = drag queen = gay = so must be me

I struggled with this because I was never attracted to guys, only gals. Even in my dreams it was always a gal on the other end.

I had done research on the internet. And I had begun to visit web sites and forums. Some said they were hetro and some said they were gay. Hey maybe those society views I grew up with were wrong.

But what really finalized it was being in a large Gay/Lesbian/TG club which even had several groups of hetro gals there to see the drag show. About 3/4 through the night I caught myself staring at several male couples that were getting close and cuddling and kissing. I had this creepy feeling like my skin crawling all over me and this sick to my stomach feeling. I then suddenly had this huge feeling of relief. I was no longer confused on my sexuality. I had no problem with seeing couples like that anymore. Well other than the same as hetro couples that push in intimacy levels in public...... Like do you need a room.

[loki_uk]

No option for being a closet lesbian in a mans body then

[SweetCaroline]

Read the sig line.

Seriously, I'm straight, and have no intention of going gay. I would probably be uncomfortable being hit on by a man while dressed up.

However...

Most of my friends are female, and we tend to be pretty physically affectionate toward each other, you know, hugs, kisses on the check, linking arms when we go out. I could easily see myself showing the same sort of affection to a male friend if we were both dressed up en femme, since I would see him as a "girlfriend" rather than a man. That's as far I would go however.

[spandexgirl188]

When I'm a boy I'm totally a boy. I love girls and love being with them sexually. But when I'm a girl I'm totally a girl. I need a man to satisfy me. Like I've said before about myself - it's almost like a split personality thing for me. So I supposed I'm straight both ways. lol

I feel the same way. I guess that's why i keep fantazising about being with a man in the back of my mind. This topic got me to speak with a friend of mine about this subject. She suggested that you wont really know if youre bi or not till you see both sides of the fence. I guess this is a topic i will never find out about since i am happily married, But it still lingers there, deep in my thoughs and still part of me wants to find out. Sorry for the babbling.

Jessica.

[Ruth]

The world in general believes that men who dress as women want to act sexually as women, and construe from this that they are gay. Of course they're wrong in several ways about all that.
But we're a mixed bag here. I've been hetero all my life and do not entertain romantic or sexual thoughts about men while en femme. But obviously others do.
I went to bed with a man while in my student days. I think we both did it in a spirit of experimentation. Well, if you don't try it, you can't knock it. Anyway, it did nothing for me and I've never repeated it. I've been happily married for 30 years. And I've been cross dressing for that long too and it hasn't made a dent in my hetero outlook.

[Chelseaswpa]

So far the results, as I read them, show that Crossdressing has had a powerful affect on many of our members sexual practices.

I acknowledge that this poll is not very scientific and I am just an amateur when it comes to polling, I still am intrigued by the data.

I apologize if there was not a question more appropriate for your experience.

Hi Rita! one question you did not ask- were you gay/bi before you started dressing- or - were you always gay/bi and dressing came naturally to you. I kind of qualify for both of those. I would rather be straight, but have always been attracted to male genitalia, and now find that my interest is really for other CD/TG's.

[Teresa Amina]

I tend to class myself more as assexual with slight heterosexual leanings

A great description I would share.

[flatlander_48]

Unfortunately none of the categories apply. I came out as bisexual 12-15 years before I crossdressed. Basically the answer would be no effect.

[MarinaTwelve200]

As long as I can remember back, I was always confused on being gay with growing up with the society and my family view of:

men wearing female clothes = drag queen = gay = so must be me

I struggled with this because I was never attracted to guys, only gals. Even in my dreams it was always a gal on the other end.

I had done research on the internet. And I had begun to visit web sites and forums. Some said they were hetro and some said they were gay. Hey maybe those society views I grew up with were wrong.

But what really finalized it was being in a large Gay/Lesbian/TG club which even had several groups of hetro gals there to see the drag show. About 3/4 through the night I caught myself staring at several male couples that were getting close and cuddling and kissing. I had this creepy feeling like my skin crawling all over me and this sick to my stomach feeling. I then suddenly had this huge feeling of relief. I was no longer confused on my sexuality. I had no problem with seeing couples like that anymore. Well other than the same as hetro couples that push in intimacy levels in public...... Like do you need a room.

You describe several aspects about my own feelings, Initial confusion, and later on, the "skin crawling", "sick" feeling concerning homosexuality.---and a similar opinion concerning intimacy in public, hetro and homo.

Fortunately, I looked up good info on sexuality when I was a teen and cleared up my initial confusion early on, before I got myself into difficulty, and my gut reactions to intimate gay couples sorta mirrored your own, and confirmed my own hetrosexuality to myself.

But I have come to the conclusion that there IS what could be called 'PSEUDO HOMOSEXUALITY" out there. What about the poor kid who may CD, or in some social sub-cultures be poor at sports, or is "UN-macho" in some other way and, due to a lack of good information only THINKS he is gay---Convincing himself that CD=gay for example. He may "give in" in despair and even adopt a "homosexual lifestyle"---likely hating every minute of it, dropping his self esteem even lower, etc. etc. This may be something he WILL recover from only AFTER he realizes he was hetro after all, but may take years.

AS I think real gay people are born that way and cannot change, I think that those who DO change were not gay after all, and fall into the "pesudo-homosexual" category---victims of confusion and BAD sexuality information. Indeed I also think that those religious groups who claim to "cure" homosexuality are really only curing "pseudo homosexuals"

[Audrey34]

I love women. So much that I try to look like one for a few hours from time to time. No attraction to men whatsoever.
-Audrey

[erickka]

I am 100% into women......I can't help it if I love to wear their clothes and shoes!

[Opie!]

Now, see, I've often fantasized about being an actual woman, which, caused some internal conflicts, because even though I'd love to have girl parts, I would still much rather be with a girl than a guy. In my search to find myself I tried being with a guy one time, I did not enjoy it, and I really doubt I'd revisit the experience. I didn't vote, because I didn't really feel I fit, but, because of my cross dressing, I am now seriously considering SRS, but even if I went through it, I would not want to be with a man. It is this fact that has kept me confused, and in denial for most of my life. What the hell though, life is short, might as well be happy.

[Becky Moore]

My experiences with men have been crap, great at first, but they think with their little heads far too often for me, im going to try tgirls like myself in future and if that doesn't work, i'll just make sure I have a regular supply of batteries

[Marla]

I find that Im much better at making love to a man when dressed as a woman than making love to a woman when dressed as a man. PM me if you want to talk

[Kitty Sue]

I do enjoy being sexual with a man when dressed. When I am just me I like being with ggs.

[tall_brianna]

I am an equal opportunity lover but men are still running 1:20 behind women when it comes to attraction.

[Wynter Skye]

I was young when I started dressing and had always been attracted to women. When I began to dress, I grew an admiration for others such as RuPaul who was huge at the time, for being men and transforming so beautifully. I also realized that an attractive woman has power over men which intrigued me. Later on came the internet so of course I searched for drag queens crossdressing transsexual etc... this led me to several porn sites which blossomed a new interest. Beautiful "women" (to the eye they looked like women) with male genitals. This inspired respect, admiration, and arousal in me. I felt I could relate to these gorgeous people and began admiring all of their body. Now, while I am attracted equally to both gg's and tg's, I consider myself bi not because I'm attracted to men, but I'm attracted to the idea of being sexual with masculine embodiment to make me feel more feminine. I've never looked at a man and said, "my he's attractive" but I have done many things with other men for the purpose of feeling like a woman. (or a porn star!) That is on a deeper level of my psyche though I suppose. Its easier for me just to consider myself bisexual.

[LilSissyStevie]

I consider myself straight but even before I reached puberty I had wild fantasies about hermaphrodites which in my mind were just females with extra parts. Because of my weird fantasies and my crossdressing desires, I figured early on that I must be gay and I just used the hermaphrodite thing to allow myself some deniability. I came to fully accept my probable gayness and went looking for that special guy to initiate me. The only problem was that I wasn't attracted to males, not even MTFs of any type. I was only attracted to females and fantasized about them and their “extras”. When I crossdressed I was dressing to be one of these lovely creatures not just a regular female. I'm a male to ******* crossdresser. LOL!

It turns out that my fantasy doesn't exist in the real world or is extremely rare but I did find out that some girls come with attachments. That's even better! I'm not sure what you'd call us but in the bedroom she's the butch and I'm the bit... err...umm...femme. Most of the time, anyway. Straight? Gay? Bi? Odd? Who cares? It doesn't get much better than this.

[steppingout]

The more I dress, the more I fantisise about being with guys and trans - and have been making some moves in that direction.
But I think there was always some inclination that way - it wasn't the dressing that created it.

[Lilly 40C]

I've been Bi for over 25 years. In the past when I was with a man I was dressed straight and the agressor. Recently, I was with a man while dressed enfem and much to my surprise was very submissive. I know I'm not gay because I like being with women too but, dress me up and its men I want not women. I like the feeling of submitting to a man's advances but only when I'm dressed. Has anyone else had these feelings?


Kisses,

Lilly

[teresa jeen]

it really depends on the situation, if im dressed up then it would depend on the mood. i tend to let my fem side take control.i guess you could say what happens in vegas stays in vegas!!!

[Kellycd7]

Great thread, I have finally come to the realization that I am bi.
And when I'm dressed, it strictly has to be men, the thought of being with a woman does not enter into it when I'm dressed.

I'll be honest, when I dressed, something very pleasant happens, I find myself very "turned on" sexually for lack of a better term,..I can't explain it, it's a very hard line, so when I dress, it's for no other purpose than a sexual release. (is that bad?)

My body is such that it very much resembles the female form and believe me, my mirror and my cameras get a pretty good work-out, theres a name for "wanting to f*%#@k yourself, I just can't think of it right now. But back to the topic, strangely, my desire for men is immediately switched on when I'm dressed and it is pleasantly erotic!

When I am dressed, I find men (dressed and not(especially dressed)) very easy to be with.

-Love
Kelly

[Blonde]

No option for being a closet lesbian in a mans body then

I agree with loki..
I am a lesbian trapped in a mans body.