He shows me emails or correspondence w/ other CDs in various support groups. The way they talk......hugs and "delightful" and "fabulous" and "sister".....honestly, it's quite nauseating at times.
Anything male is "disgusting". ????
*** ALL CD's do not think this way, let's not further stereotypes.
Generally CDs complain about being "labelled", but they're the biggest offenders. Labelling attitudes, actions & appearance "female" - avoiding anything they label "male".... As I see it, gender has little to do with anything other than procreation. Other than that, it only has the meaning we assign it and I'm still baffled why TG persons put so much importance on it and then label it so strictly.
*** For the most part it's TS people who do that. Also by the way, our society has labeled gender under strict definitions & rules, men aren't supposed to do some of the things women are allowed to do.
I do appreciate how sweet, gentle, loving and faithful my husband is. Now which came first - the fire or the phoenix
? If they go hand-in-hand, I will accept CDing as I am not willing to give up his disposition.
Along those lines, I cannot treat Darlene differently than I treat him.
*** And you shouldn't, Darlene & him are one person, just as you are you whether in jeans & t-shirt & zero make-up or all glammed up.
I will be willing to learn, stretch the status-quo and grow, but I also feel that by crossdressing to full femme, he's shunning a gift he was given in this life and not fully dealing with the challenges that go along with it. He has the opportunity to show the world that gentle men are wonderful & powerful - by presenting female, I think that message gets lost. (I will duck now for that one
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*** As a woman, if you don't wear high heels & make-up etc. and live & act girly, are you not fully dealing with the challenges of the gift you were given? How about encouraging him when in male-mode to be that gentle man as you put it, without the conflicted message of "be a man & stop all this business of dresses & make-up."