[SIZE="2"]HI to everyone I do know and those of you I dont...Its been a while since I have posted a thread even though I have continued to visit the site off and on to just read...
I finally shared my husbands "secret" side with my mother...I trusted her and confided in her ...my mother told my son that my husband was a crossdresser, that he was gay and blah blah...pretty much all the discriminating opinions about crossdressing (right and wrong ones) society infringes upon us...you would think her reason for telling my son this tid bit would be so that she could do what she felt was in the childs best interest...her reasons for telling this to a 12 yr old boy, who was sexually assaulted at the age of 8, were NOT for what she felt to be best for the child - she is trying to blackmail us...she wants money or she is threatening to contact the authorities and have them take my son from me if we dont pay her...she knows that my husbands mother died not long ago and that as a result there was inheritance and funds from a law suit...but we didnt become millionaires in it...
And so here, three weeks since my mother shared her wealth of information...my husband told/admitted to my son about his crossdressing (my husband did not tell me he was going to tell my son-we had not discussed it at all-which made me mad as *%# *#@^ and hurt that he didnt think about even stopping one second, grabbing his cell and saying hey im gonna tell him now and hang up geesh least I would have had warning or something)...I am not sure how the heck he explained it but I do know that yesterday my son and I were in a store picking out birthday cards for my husband...and my son picked up this card that was meant for a woman - pink detailed the while nine yards...and my son turns with the card in his hand, laughs and says we should get this one...I told him that the card was meant for a girl...he laughed again and said "but he's a girl too" and laughed again as he turned back to looking at cards
My son is in therapy - he has been for several years now...which he does he sees his psychiatrist on Thurs and I meet with his therapist on Friday - yet I aint sure what to tell her either...cause I really didnt think it wize to just let my child walk in and say hey did you know he likes to wear a dress?? So I made an appointment for she and I to speak on Friday before I schedule another appointment for him...I am just so not sure what to say though
Talk about a mess huh??? Anyone wanna trade places with me for a min or two???
My question is : How and WHAT do I say to this child about this? I am at a loss...I know that majority of you have children...I need to know what information and how deep with defining crossdressing do I go - I dont know what my husband said...and he has been out of state since the morning after this happened...and isnt due to return home for several more days...so I am on my own on this one...I guess that is what I am trying to ask...he needs to know an accurate definition...did any of you just come out and tell your children or did they find out by accident? how old were they when they knew? Any suggestions that you guys might have would be greatly appreciated...xoxoC/
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