No - but I am working on overcoming my own fear as well as that of my SO.
Yes I loved it. It was the best feeling ever
Yes I thought it was good
Yes doesnt every one
No i wish I could but too affraid
No never will
No - but I am working on overcoming my own fear as well as that of my SO.
You must go out, you look very passable, and you have that feminine look about you, if you can find a GG to go with you, once out you will not go back in the closet, also find other CD'S to go out with. Like melinda C said it is an exillerating feeling of freedom. and dress like other GG's dress, conservative, look at other GG's see what they are wearing. I went out by myself my first time about 20 yrs ago. I did stop crossdressing in 1995 to make the wife happy, but the marriage fell apart anyway in 1997 but I did not dress enfemme again till 2005, I could not resist the urge any more. thankfully I still had my femme clothes in storage, and I immediately went out in public, I was a little nervous at first, but now, I go out all the time, and I dont care what peaple think, it is total freedom whn you reach that point.
About 6 months ago I ventured out with the intention of being a 7/24 girl. Today I went to help a friend get set up for the upcoming season flea market, (hard on nails and keeping dirt N stuff off you, yuck LOL) went to a testosterone filled enviroment (local gun store to apply for concealed weapon class) got treated bad and left (typical male attitude..class filled and was NO help about another), Lane Bryants to buy wrist bracelets and the cutest tank tops with spaghetti straps (got 4..all different colors), J C Penney to get a strapless bra for the tops (none my size..dang) and a red shoulder purse and the day was shot so came home. Once you have done it a few times it will get easier. The hardest part is that first baby step out the door. If you want to do it you can girl. Remember for every bad experience, there are a hundred nice people out there with nice experiences.
It is good to go out.
The first time for me was shopping for more clothes!
I remember sitting in my car for about 10 minutes. Yes nervous!
The first thing you need to do is gain confidence. Confidence with saying to yourself that is is ok for me to want to appear female. This self-acceptance needs to be more than the nerves.
Strangers seemed to just accept me as any another person. No stares or rude comments.
Oh if you are worried, then going into a ladies clothing store is the best place to start. Why? Because they welcome all potential customers. If they see you as a woman (or a wannabe one) there is a chance that you might buy something.
The only thing stopping you is your own fear. Fear of what? A piece of cotton that might be shaped differently to other clothes.
Try it and see for yourself. Then tell us afterwards!
How many girls have ventured into the outside World
I have been out in the car a few times but can only do it when we are away from home as my wife is very concerned that we may be seen and recognised. Unfortunately due to family circumstances we have not been away this year. My wife states she does not understand my need to 'dress' but does help me buy clothing sometimes and will often buy something which will fit either of us but is more likely to be used by me. a few weeks ago we visited a market and there was a stall selling bras, I thought she was shopping for herself then she asked what size I wore and purchased me a nice pink one, we would have had more but they didn't have my size in other colours I liked.
On the times I have gone out, it just felt natural!
hugs to all
Susan
I go out and about when I can. The first time properly out was when I was 17. I was petrified. It got easier after the first time, and I have been shopping, to a restaurant, coffee shops and even to a wedding in the last couple of years.
Some years ago my job gave me plenty of opportunities for dressing and I would get out&about several times each week. I loved it although I never interacted with other people. Now I work from home it is very difficult to dress at all (wife not comfortable with it) and I especially miss my regular outings.
I have been out late at knight or early morning for walks around my apt. complex and to the mail box fully dressed what a thrill working my way to going out, out side the apt complex for a drive soon then after that who knows.
trying to loose some weight also to look more fem and not preg in a dress LOL
Hi Andrea,
My femme side has been gradually evolving throughout the years, & I never really had much of an urge to go out until the past year & a half. I've only been out twice so far (both times at night), but I've found the experience profoundly rewarding. Once the initial fear (lots!!!) passed, it gave me quite an exhilarating sense of liberation & validation to openly express my femininity with/around others. I've already learned & grown much as a person from doing it, & I can foresee much more personal enrichment resulting from continued outings.
For me, it's been a beautiful, almost necessary step in my womanhood, but that doesn't mean it's right for everyone. I barely made it past the overwhelming fear I felt at first, but I'm glad that I did. For me, pushing so far beyond my comfort zone was a means to an end- I felt I had to set my inner-woman free, & the only way was to break through that barrier of fear. I saw it as a need for me. Being the person I am, I'll probably always have some fear about it, but for me it's worth it. I hope to one day work-up to going out in the daytime (a whole different thing than night!!), but it's ok if I never quite get there. If I can move through the fear to enjoy the good stuff- great! If the fear remains an on-going obstacle- then I'll find & stick with doing the things I can to express myself as a woman & to feel pleasure in doing. I just want my feminine experience to be as pure & deep as possible, with a bare minimum of negative feelings.
For someone considering going out, I'd suggest finding out precisely why, first of all. Dealing with the fear & the inherent risks of going out might be entirely unnecessary if (for instance) "peer pressure" is ones main reason for wanting to go out. But, if one felt it as somewhat of a "need", as I do, then it will likely be worth it. I'd suggest some thorough introspection towards personal understanding before doing anything on impulse. Everyone would do well to simply measure their own desire against their own price to determine if it's worth it for them!!
Good luck Andrea, I hope you enjoy your gift... wherever it takes you (or doesn't take you!)!!
Hugz,
Veronica
I have ventured out several times en femme. The most memorable time was a visit to a casino. No one seemed to spot me. I had dressed in jeans, long sleeve turtleneck blouse, and a jean jacket which blended very well. It was a thrill!!
I love to go out dressed and go shopping for new cloths. I have not had many problems. Every once in a while a Sales clerk will give that funny look and want to hear me talk if they arn't sure. So far I have managed to pass the test but I have to say it does play on the nerves. I feel safer in the afternoon.
Norma
Hi Girls, I would love to go out sometime but here in backwoods America, everyone knows everyone else. I would have to travel to another town to be able to to get out dressed, but then I don't know where to go....I guess its a good thing I'm not real passable. Kaitlin
I love Jesus!
Life is so much better now that I know who I am !
The furthest i,ve been is the end of my driveway. I felt great afterwoods, but i,m not sure if i,ve got the nerve to go any further!! Maybe one day!!
Out? Actually it is a rarity that I ever go "IN."
I shop, attend church, men's group (seldom, but sometimes), Coed Encounter Group, Clubbing, Dinners, shopping, just hanging out....
Last night I went to church to get my picture taken for the Church Directory, one pic for Bob, and one for Roberta!
It is great fun, and adventure. Sometimes it is poignant, as I actually live a life "out there."
It has taken a turn, recently, as I have found romance with someone who supports my CDing. As a result, I'm sharing more "domestic" time.
Wish you all happiness, wherever you are !
Roberta
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whenever and wherever i can - just can't get enoughof it - just regret that i can't do it more often. love shopping for girlie clothes, clubs, pubs, restaurants, stately homes, supermarkets, on my own, with guys, with 'girls'. don't even mind the occasional heckles and whistles now!
mitch
I have never ventured out myself. It sure would be nice but guess I'm too paranoid. Maybe later..
Weeeeeeee
I first went out enfemme in High School... And now its always when on business trips (like today and tommorow and Thursday). And just for some shopping and sight seeing around locally.. Its fun and very comphy feeling...
Its a way of life.............
When Cindy gets dress it is time to go out and hit the clubs and dance the night away, getting dress just to stay at home is NOT for Cindy.
They say going out is not for everyone that is B.S to me I have seen all kinds of Cd's some can pass and some can not but they do not let that stop them from walking on the wild side.
LA CINDY LOVE
the first time i went out was when i was a Junior in HS....
interesting times i guess. I had alot (like 4-5) of accepting friends that i went with.
I miss those days sometimes.
Well I'm a middle-aged CDer but I have only started going out this year - have been out just 3 times. First time was definitely the biggest thrill. All times have been to the shopping centre in the next town, where there is no chance of Ruth being recognised.
I'm aware of being read by some people each time but there has never been any confrontation or trouble.
People are mostly too wrapped up in their own business to take a lot of notice of other people. And if you are spotted, in a large public space, I think even those people who find a CDer offensive do not want to make a scene.
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Never! Its not "fear", but seems to me like a CRAZY idea. I personally see MY CDing as something I do in private and is nobody's business but my own. Now I am NOT judging others, y'all can do what you want to do and I'm cool with it, I write this to give you insight into my personal attitude towards my OWN CDing--a lot of us feel this way,---I think its best called a PRIVATE CD attitude----not to be confused with a "CLOSET" CD who is someone who WANTS to go out but is afraid to.
Those who DO go out, more power to you.If you are willing to take your lumps and risk the consequences, keep on trucking. Just dont COMPLAIN if you get ridiculed or embarrased--you know the risk----I just think its Crazy myself
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I am a closet CD, but I have been out and had three make overs done, and drove home two of the times dressed, and the thrill was unbelievable for me.
I go out all the time enfemme. But I do it as a man, no wig and very little makeup. Today I went to the Post Office and then to my Nail Salon. I am wearing panties and bra (of course!), a gold low cut knit top and a brown skirt with a self belt that ties. Oh yes, 2" stacked heel open toe sandals since I was getting a pedicure. Got some smiles, and one "nice oufit" at the Post Office.
I dress to please myself, and don't really care what others may think. No desire to be a girl, just want to dress like one!
Sissy/Stephanie
More Girl than man sometimes
I voted "yes dosent everyone". I Think most if not all of us work towards this as a goal. My first trip was great, scarry, out of control, fun, but not the best ever. The birth of my daughter was, awesome, the first time I kissed my wife..........What I mean is it was great, and it keeps getting better, but its only a part of me, not all of me.
SandyR
Real Men can Cook in Heels...
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