I've realised that the ultra femme look just doesn't work for me and I've been drifting to a more andrognyne look - cargo pants, tanks, with panties and bra (and forms) and a more boyish look.
I find it much more realistic and with good beard cover and some basic make up I look a lot more convincing than I would ina dress. I might even go out to a local venue dressed like this soon. I'm also dressing that way all the time I'm at home now.
One CD I know basically implied I was letting the side down by not being really femme, but I think I'm actually being sensible.
The big thing is how far do I go... I dont think I'll ever transition but having a more feminine body is certainly something I'm looking into.