I'm not feminine.
I have facial hair.
I'm quite broad at the shoulders.
I'm tall.
I'm overweight.
I wouldn't pass in a month of Sundays.
Now on many occasions on this and other forums, I have seen pictures of people with the question "Do I pass?"
99% of the time the replies say "yes", when a some of the time they should say "Only in the dark" or "At a short sighted convention"
Now don't take this the wrong way. I'm all for people who want to get out and about and walk amongst the world to do so, but to tell someone that they easily pass and encorage them to do something that might get them laughed at, insulted or even hurt is surely wrong.
If someone looks like a man in a dress, should they not be told so?
I was watching a TV programme here in the UK the other night. It was about the wives of crossdressers. One of the CD was very good looking as a girl, but some of the others left a lot to be desired. There was one lady (the SO of a CD) who actively encoraged CDs to get out into the public. One of these looked and always will look like a man in ladies clothes.
They went to one area and the laughs, the name calling and abuse from the local lads was quite shocking. This person should not have been encouraged to put him/herself into that situation.
This is not just for the persons sake, it's for the sake of crossdressers everywhere.
To many, we are considered freaks. And it's no wonder when you see of the CDs/TVs at some of the CD events and indeed the pictures they post.
A lot of the members here really do look stunning, some even make me doubt my sexuality. I think to myself "yes I know it's a man, but I would!!!"
There are a few who need to be told... "Your outfit looks great, but for the love of God, don't go out. You'll scare the children"
I see myself very much so as the latter.
I agree that some people don't really care about what others might think, and more power to their elbows for being so strong, but others who might be slightly nervous, or not able to handle the abuse might be talked into doing something they can't handle, just because we are sometimes scared to be honest.
I also agree that it's a free world and people should be able to go out dressed as they like in whatever clothes they like, but is it fair to tell someone they look female when they quite obviously do not?
It's not fair that unconvincing CDs get shouted at and abused, but this is the society that we live in. Personally, I'm big enough and strong enough to take care of myself, and I have the ability to verbally put down anyone who thinks they are being a smart a**e, but I'm also man enough to know that if I went into town dressed as a girl, I'd get the p**s taken something rotten.
Please don't flame back. This is just a question that I've been wanting to ask for years. I would never encourage anyone to do something that might get them ridiculed. I'm not saying that unconvincing CDs/TVs/TGs etc etc etc should not go out. I'm saying that we should let them know that they are unconvincing before they do, this way they are warned and prepared for any flack that might come their way.
DJ