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It takes a long time to get to know yourself. it takes even longer to like yourself. I'm 25 and i have just about come to terms with myself in my everyday life, and i think that is quite early!
As a CD, I have been very fortunate to find myself with an extreemly supportive fiance who, as luck would have it, is quite up on the Psycology of life. so I'm quite happy with my desires to wear "womens" clothes. (they aren't by the way, they're mine too!)
But like you, i don't want people to find out about me. For all sorts of reasons.
Fear of ridicule
Fear of losing my friends
Fear of losing my Job/career
Notice they are all fear due to society. But all still very real.
The point is, you can be the way you are, i can be the way i am, and the world doesn't have to know. if they do find out, it may not be so bad. You are not doing anything wrong, you have broken no laws (where i come from anyway!)
As for why.... well could be anything, but from waht you say, I feel like I was in a similar position about 9 years ago. And my mum found out too! I liked wearing girls clothes, felt good when i did it, felt wrong after, but as has already been said, the wrong part is just as a result of what we think we know. i thought that maybe it was the thrill of the taboo at first. So when i was discovered i burned everything i had accumulated. I soon found out it was more than that and felt gutted i had got rid of everything!
As far as being a Fag or Queer. Well I'm not Gay and most CD's aren't. I am very much a Boy or Action Man! When not in a skirt! so there is room in life for all sorts of variation.
I reckon that you, me, everyone here, is just experiencing/enjoying more of life than your usual everyday person. or at least the image that the everyday person creates for themselves.
I've seen it written that 10% of all men crossdress. that means that you already know a lot of them! Probaly more of them are way too scared to let themselves even think about it. But... you are lucky because you have support, you know that you will be loved no matter what. and that goes a long way.
By the way, if we all get a bit deep, it's probably because we are all in touch with our feminine sides! (and the ladies love that!)
Best of luck
Sophie (some of the time)
Last edited by Sophie; 04-17-2005 at 01:44 PM.
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