Has A Therapist Ever Asked You To Come To Your Next Session En Femme?

[CaptLex]

I went to my therapist in drag to partly surprise him and to show how I will shop in drag so that I don't get a gay reputation.

I guess I'll never understand this . . . why do you care?

[tifftg]

I was seeing a therapist for a couple years. She specialized in transgender issues as well as helping me with some personal non-dressing related issues. I went enfemme one time and she took some pictures. I was glad I did, but so nervous. One of the few times I went out dressed in my home town back then.

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[Priscilla Ann]

After my divorce I went to one a few times and he ask that I bring the clothes in but I never did and shortly there after I stopped going.
He never said anything just let me do all the talking, never made a comment, nothing.
Decided that if I done all the talking and never heard a comment one way or another I could take a walk in a park and talk to myself and come up with a reason as to why I do it and what I need to do.

I love this answer!!!

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If a therapist asked me to come to a session dressed en femme, I would be tempted to say "Why? You looking for a date?"

[docrobbysherry]

Now that I have this site, I don't need one. I hope!
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[Stephanie-L]

I have only had two sessions with my therapist and have not gone en femme yet. She has been supportive of my CDing, and even about the possibility of my getting breast augmentation. I plan to go to a session en femme in the near future, though I am not sure if I should ask her about it first or just show up as Stephanie. It seems several of the girls here just went as their femme selves and usually had positive reactions, so I am seriously considering this.........Stephanie

[Cara Allen]

After my divorce I went to one a few times and he ask that I bring the clothes in but I never did and shortly there after I stopped going.
He never said anything just let me do all the talking, never made a comment, nothing.
Decided that if I done all the talking and never heard a comment one way or another I could take a walk in a park and talk to myself and come up with a reason as to why I do it and what I need to do.

Hi, Sharon!

That sounds like a Freudian therapist to me. Those guys will mess you up. The theory is that you will take the impartial silence as a rejection. The processes of "transferrence" and "projection" kick in, and you start spilling your guts, and he learns about your neurosis. he becomes the person who was the instigator of your problems. There is no consideration of biological determination of problems. Freudian therapy is not only NOT 21st century, it's not even 20th century.

I think it's hogwash. In the absence of good information, anyone fills in the blanks. When I was young, I went to a Freudian Psychiatrist for years. I learned nothing. I later went to a kind understanding communicative therapist and learned more in three sessions than in all that time I wasted with the Freudian.

Get a different doctor! One who understands gender, and you will be very, very happy. The validation and increase in self awareness you get is worth the price of admission.

[tommi]

The first therapist I seen asked if I would be more comfortable showing up dressed, the crazy part is I was there to get control over.
That was seven years ago my wife has since insisted that I go again this time I researched therapist founf a women who specialised in glbt issues as
well as couples therapy. After just one session I'm so much more at ease
but I still will not attend dressed.
One of the reasons I enjoy dressing is strees relief I do not leave my house dreesed other than to go for an occassional drive. Going to the therapist dressed would just be to much for me.
I do think in some cases they just want to see what reaction we would give them over having the opportunity.

[janet1234]

because I am content with being a CD

[black leotards]

I saw a counselor for a couple of years a long time ago. I did dress for her regularly, although I never added any makeup. She was very understanding and helped me understand myself a lot more. Funny thing was for a while she worked in a church. I used to change in the washroom and had to be careful that I wasn't caught.

[noname]

She was very supportive and told me there was nothing wrong with it. She even told the now ex-wife there was nothing wrong with it and asked her why it was ok for her to wear pants.

That therapist is my hero! Logic. Shocking Logic. That's a rare find these days.

[Katrina]

I guess I'll never understand this . . . why do you care?

Good point! <sarcasm> Because being TG is so much more accepted by society than being gay. </sarcasm>

[Victoria Anne]

My first session I went dressed in pants a drab button down shirt and heels fresh from the nail salon and carring my purse as always , she has since suggested that I be more out going in my presentation (ie going out more where it is safe) , the only drab attire I have now are shirts and work shoes.

[Eugenie]

Thanks for this very interesting thread.

I'm considering seeing a therapist and never thought that I could be asked to come "en femme" to a therapy session...

Your sharing of experiences has been extremely helpfull in making me see various aspects of this subject.

I will tell you how I reacted if the therapist asks me to come dressed "en femme"...


Eugenie

[Soulless&Shallow]

Thanks for this very interesting thread.

I'm considering seeing a therapist and never thought that I could be asked to come "en femme" to a therapy session...

Your sharing of experiences has been extremely helpfull in making me see various aspects of this subject.

I will tell you how I reacted if the therapist asks me to come dressed "en femme"...


Eugenie

I'm pretty much in the same situation as you are, and it seems so many people here are more experienced in a great many things. I decided to ask, to help me with picking a therapist and what might be asked of me when I do.

Everybody so far have given great answers and offered a lot of insight on the subject. Thanks for your input everybody.

[susancheerleader]

I've never been to a therapist. I probably should though!

[Maggie Kay]

I go en femme 24/7 but when I go to sessions, I doll up just a bit more. Let my hair down, lipstick, nicer clothes etc. After all, sessions are the only place I can go to be fully me and say whatever I want to an impartial listener. He uses Rogerian methods so he will rephrase my comments and state them back. It is supposed to bring more stuff out but for me it serves to externalize my thoughts and to hear them from someone else I can understand them better.