To the extent that I let others bother me when they "judge","dismiss", or "harrass" me, I am cooperating with them in creating a world of misery.
Folks judge each other because the alternative, accepting differences, would take them into the ground of accepting their own perceived "differences" from the crowd. Fear of that discomfort is the energy source of tossing barbs at others.
Whenever I take one of those barbs personally (i.e. react-inward), I validate and add to the negative energy that is directed my way. I become their accomplice in creating a world of misery. If I go so far to react-outwardly in a hurt, or reactionary, or aggressive manner in response to the barb, I am co-creating that world of misery more obviously and urgently.
If the rude behaviour is just that, and not actual threat, or violence, then forgiveness, or benign pity (sadness-for-them) is the most positive or neutral response.
After all, its MY PARTY and they don't have to join it, do they?
Someone mentioned an "attitude shift." Consider this, could their discomfort with my presentation cause me to add my own self-judgment and discomfort to the mix ? Could I be crediting my self-judgment to their account, rather than owning the fact that I have my own fears and self-judgment to work through ? If this is true, I may even go so far to see judgment, and harassment from others when there is none at all...just innocent behaviors that trigger my own (denied?) self-judgment.
Roberta