ok mostly I identify as a heterosexual male crossdresser. In other words I am attracted to women even when Im dressed.
However I seem to have a strong attraction to other transgendered MtoFs as well. I havent actually done anything with one before and I clearly have no attraction to "men as men"
but I can't deny a certain level or arousal whenever I see a transgendered person, espically if they are passable.
What does this make me other then confused?
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I agree...
Yeah Captlex is right. I would not worry to much about which tag best fits. It seems we all have our own confort zone. I would not get hung-up on tags and terms if I where you. Just enjoy yourself.
When you find out please let me know because I'm totally confused about myself these days.
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thanks for the advice
I know that I would date a woman and I would date a transgendered. I guess thats good enough
It makes you a person with feelings Hon.
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Means you REALLY love women and sometimes a sister is good enough to trigger those feelings. Relax, I would hate to see an honest poll here on who has um and who doesn't.
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The only thing that makes it confusing is the way society attaches a totally black and white "gay" label to even the slightest admission of variety in your sexual feelings.
If we all lived in ancient Greece you'd probably have your masculinity challenged if you didn't want to fool around. "Look at the girly-man! He probably has only ever kissed his wife!"
There are a ton of guys who are really into ******* porn who would never CD. There are also a ton of guys who are into CDs that you run into at clubs who aren't the slightest bit gay acting (other than that they blatantly hit on you when they know you're not a GG). They often play it off as fooling around and playing the "wink wink, we're all acting like you're a girl" game, but get a few drinks into them and sometimes they really let it out of the bag
Seriously, though, I think most of us are somewhere on the same scale. Love GGs ... love to dress up as a GG ... maybe love to go out ... if you love to go out you probably like guys being attracted to you ... and we can all appreciate a hot TG.
On one hand, I think the term "bisexual" is pretty nasty, because it brings to mind "I'll have sex with anything or anyone" ideas for most people. On the other hand, I also kinda think anyone who won't admit a twinge of bisexual feelings is extremely repressed. You know, the kinda guy who can't admit that Antonio Banderas was pretty hot in Desperado.
It would be nice if the word "gay" would be reserved for people who like showtunes and interior decorating, but as it is you're going to have to live with it being applied to the majority of us girls with a somewhat colorful sexual persuasion.
I suppose I would classify myself as a quasi-celebate bisexual
...but I'd certainly like to be in a good relationship with a woman. I doubt my therapist would lay good odds on that happening, though.
I think Raquel has it spot on. The world isn't black and white and the question is too complicated for such simple answers. For myself I answered GG only as that is more or less all I have experience of (with an exception when I was young which I didn't enjoy at all) but I'm a sucker for a sexy pair of legs and feminine feet so who knows, a pretty CD might be tempting!
It seems to me that the question is this: are you attracted to femininity, masculinity, or both? It doesn't matter what parts are attached, but instead how the person presents themself.
Personally, the male me is attracted to femininity, and the female prefers masculinity.
when dressed i have some feelings of attraction towards men - i hate it really caus i have never been physically attracted to a guy in my life - in fact i would most likely be a lesbian if i went the whole way - but i believe sexuality can shift depending on the way you see yourself - i think there is a very fine line between who and what gender we are all attracted to - and it wouldnt take much to tilt the balance - and if your a cder you must be even closer to that line !
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People are initially attracted to a look before they know anything else about a person. For this post I will stick with the context of being attracted to female.
Those who like women find femininity attractive.
What do we like about women? Smoothe skin, pretty face/hair, maybe the way she moves and acts...
So even if it is a GM doing these things, it is still quite attractive if one finds the MTF pretty. After all, a CD goes thru a lot of work to look pretty. Even if a person doesn't want to be attracted, one doesn't really have control of it. Example -
When I was like 18, I found a photo of a CD in a leotard and fishnets. Nothing dirty. Even tho I kept telling myself "It is a guy in drag, it is not sexy" well, ummm, let us just say I could not help enjoying the photo when no one was home.
ANYways, there is no shame in finding people attractive. I will be the first to admit that some of the ladies here are quite sexy.
The best thing you can do for a CD/TS is tell her you find her beautiful. She will love it! She went thru a lot to look good, let her know she is appreciated.
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There may well be a bit more to this than meets the eye, so to speak.
For example: You meet a woman who you think is very attractive but are told later that she was really a man dressed as a woman. Are you still attracted now that you know she has a penis in her panties?
When you're looking at cd's or pre-op ts's dressed you already know what's in there panties and yet you're saying that you are feeling an attraction towards them.
There's really no such thing as a beautiful GG with a penis but it seems to me that it would be something that you would desire if it did exist and an attractive cd or ts is as close to it as you will ever get.
You can't label it, just live with the fact that it is what it is and don't feel guilty about whatever your sexual attraction is.
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Would you rather pick up an overweight woman with a beard and hairy legs or a CD'r with stunning complexion and a slim sexy figure/ I know that's probably not PC but I'm just illustrating that it's not black and white.
That would be because most MTF look damn sexy in a dress!
It really is not a bad thing that you are attractive to a gorgeous bloke in a dres as they say.
I am attracted to models and movie stars but that does not mean I would ever wnat a relationship or sex wit hthem. I am attracted to the image (and yes even get caught up in the "oh I would love to be that skinny and have skin that flawless" BS).
The problem is whne attraction becomes obsession and you go beyond the window dressing into addiction.
Sexuality is a powerful thing and when people are showing their's off it is never something to be asahmed of to be caught up in it... to a point
I wouldn't worry about it..I'm guessing a trangender would be flattered.
Labels are for convenience- i.e. crossdresser is convenient, though it doesn't explain the complexities.
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I think that being attracted by another woman is rather frequent for a male, which most of us remain even when "en femme"... And some of our sisters really are definintely looking like gorgeous women... So your reactions is to be expected since you like women.
It is most likely the image of the woman that you are attracted to, not a transgender person... However, as a fantazy, knowing that the other person is also a x-dresser may play some role in the fact that you are turned on... But it remains a pretty much an ordinary attraction towards a female body.
It would be a different story all together if you were faced with the real situation of a sexual relationship... If your relation becomes more intimate, at a certain moment you would be confronted to a male anatomy... Then what would you do? Continue through with the relation? Be turned off and retract?
Not that there is anything wrong in any of these attitudes but it would make you at least bisexual in the first case and live you as an hetero sexual in the second case...
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As the last four posts indicated, I get turned on by the look of pretty legs with heels and short skirts. That attire is exactly what most of the CD's, TG ladies all wear; especially in clubs. Many are much prettier then lots of GG's that I see everyday (the fact that most GG's don't wear heels, nylons or short skirts any more may have something to do with this too). Of course our antennae will get aroused from these pretty sights! I'll stare. It is a beautiful feminine creature that my eyes are feasting on. They look terrific! They are very sexually attractive. I could not have sex with them though.
hahaha well sweetheart, i wish i had a nickel for everytime i thought that myself. i'm happily married and my wife knows that i dress, but she doesn't know that i get the same arousals as you do in regards to other m2f's. but maybe it will offer you a little comfort in knowing that you are not alone in that department.
Could it be that a part of us male to female CD's just might be attracted to the idea of having sex with someone that has a penis? Would this be the ultimate feminine experience? Granted without surgery it would not be the real thing, but how would we get any closer? Does it make us gay to have these thoughts? I will admit the thought of an encounter while dressed does have a certain amount of appeal. I do not have any desire to act on this thought though.
Do FtM have similar thoughts and are attracted to GG's? Is their situation any different than MtF?
At the risk of being crass and whatever, the phrase "bend over and take it like a man" comes to mind.
Sorry, just couldn't resist.
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If you were dressed and out in public and you were "hit-on"
either by a man or a woman, what would you do??
How far would you go?
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