...so my wife and I are sitting at the table after lunch yesterday just as she hung up on a telemarketer named "Karen" who just happened to sound quite um,.. manly. So she surmised that maybe "Karen" was a crossdresser and that perhaps telemarketing is a good job for someone who has gender issues.
"Do you go through withdrawal when you're not able to dress up as much?", she asked.
This kinda took me off guard since we'd not really approached the subject for a number of weeks. I told her that it really just comes and goes with me and nothing I feel too anxious about most of the time... but then she said something I don't think I'd ever expected to hear.
"Should I be giving you more private time to dress? Maybe I need to take the kids out more often?", she said.
I'm not usually easy to surprise but this was completely unexpected at this point. I've understood that since she's known about this aspect of my gender identity for only a short while now and was not necessarily completely comfortable with the idea of it all, I was very lucky that it wasn't considered something of a "dealbreaker" for us in the grand scheme of our relationship, but it almost felt like we'd gotten past a small hurdle with this offer.
Granted, I have not really pushed my TG issue at all over the past few months and in reality, it's really not at all intrusive within our marriage I think, but having her offer to give me more time to just be me, well... I was left speechless.
Acceptance is one sphere of understanding... encouragement is another. I think we're now somewhere in the middle of those areas,... and it kinda feels good here.
jenn
Originally Posted by TGMarla
