[SIZE="4"]How many times have I heard the Question...
Why did you choose to be this way?
What is your feeling on this? What do you think?
I personally believe the Creator of the Universe made me this way.
It was not a choice.
It is how I was wired.
Et vous?
Bev[/SIZE]
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Beverly
from a boys point of view i dont believe any of us choose to be this way....
Ummm....
I can be any way I'm willing to put up with.
I feared this. I wanted this. I tried this. I like this.
I get serious hassles from some I hold very dear.
That gives me pause, but does not stop me.
CD brings forth a part of myself that is beautiful and powerful and which completes me.
So it makes me more of whoever I am meant to be.
It is part of my nature, I had to nurture it. Hell! I've had to fight for it!
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The choice I have is to accept who and what I am, or to spend my life feeling guilty, and ashamed, and angry.. :hmmm:
Nicki
[SIZE="1"]Moi?[/SIZE]
I didn't choose to feel this way but I'm making the choice to finally accept it.
-Stephan B.
I think the only "choice" any of us have made is to accept what we are. I know for myself I did not choose to be a CD, but I chose to finally accept it as part of that which makes me who I am and therefore sub sequentially found my happiness.
It is your choice to accept or reject those parts of yourself that are a part of the whole package, should you reject them, you will come to find that you are not as happy as you could be had you accepted them all. We all have our idiosyncrasies that enable us to be the unique individual we are inside. Don’t question it, too much
Kandis
Someone once told me "Put on Your big girl panties and deal with it". If they only knew, I WAS ALREADY WEARING THEM.
I wear the bras and panties so my wife doesn't have to.
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I didn't choose this, but I will ride this out to the conclusion. I look at my sisters and I used to think I wish I were one of them...but....after dealing with their problems, I am just glad to be me.
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Tamara
From a scientific point of view all personality traits such as crossdressing are a combination of both your environment and your genetic predisposition. I.e. nature vs nuture so it's not possible to say it's definately one or the other.
Basically, it's likely the average crossdresser was genetically predisposed to crossdressing but something in your environment is likely to have triggered it. None of us are hardwired at birth to be the people we become. It's a mixture.
Sorry to tread on what I believe will be many toes, but the only thing that can be seen as only "nature" are physical traits such as your eye colour.
How this works in practise is another matter, and surely the only thing that is important is what the individual believes. Afterall, does it really matter if it was nature, nurture, or both?
God does not play dice with the universe.
He plays an ineffable game of His own devising, which might be compared from the perspective of any of the other players (i.e. everybody) to being involved in an obscure and complex version of poker in a pitch-dark room, with blank cards, for infinite stales, with a Dealer who won't tell you the rules and who smiles all the time.
I long since given up looking for a reason. I just accept that "Caroline" is a big part of who I am. When I was five years old, I put on my sister's night gown one Sunday morning. I wanted to wear it. No one forced me too. Not only that but I felt different with the nightgown on. I don't know how to describe it, but I liked it enough to spend the rest of my childhood wanting to wear girls clothing.
I'm also an artist, and spent most of my life drawing and painting and designing. You don't ask an artist why he paints. He just does. He needs to. His very person depends on it. Some say we are born with talent. Maybe maybe not. But trust me it takes a lot of hard work to develop that talent and order to turn it into a work of art. It takes a lot of time, money and effort and there's no promise that you'll get anything in return out of it but that's not the goal. Same with me and dressing.
Sorry. Long. Just my take on it.
Caroline Emily
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You may as well ask me why I chose to have brown eyes, Bev.
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I don,t think we choose to be this way!!
I doubt any of us choose it!! I think the choice we make is whether to accept it or not.
I tried not accepting and it made me unhappy, so now i,ve chosen to accept it and see where it leads!!
So... is being left-handed a personality trait?Originally Posted by Ema1234 GG
I agree the expression of one's GD is likely to be down to one's socialisation, but I don't think anyone can say atm the original dysphoria is not one's nature..
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Nicki
[SIZE="1"]Moi?[/SIZE]
the clothes are external. they reflect my mind thought and who I am. As a women I suppose to wear womens clothes
Well, I initially chose to experiment because it was exciting and a turn-on. Of course, there had to be some reason why I was aroused by it, but that's another subject. Once my dressing progressed to a certain level and I began interacting with other people a little bit, I discovered that the fem side of me (which I had only suspected on some subconscious level) is real.
Nature vs. nurture is a very complex model. My belief is there are genes and body chemistries that give me my sexual self perception. This is supported by the fact that I cannot control thoughts and desires? But my behaviour has also reinforced this perspective and given it a reality.
Kathleen Ann
I'm often curious why I am the way I am because it appears to be different from the "norm", if there really is such a thing. Regardless, I'm very happy with the way I was built and honestly wouldn't want to be any other way.
Something happens and I'm head over heels.
Actually, I did but that's a story for another time.
Second star to the right and straight on till morning
Good question - If my sister never dressed me would I dress today? I hate and love her for doing this to me - If she ever busted me dressing I would have to say to her - this is your doing!!!Or is it?? Who knows.. All I can say is - I am loving it right now..
Really enjoying this!!!
Ha ha, Sal!Actually, I did but that's a story for another time.
Getting back to the source again.
Actually the lighting was pretty dim, and the fine print was pretty small, so when I made that 'choice' (oh yeah, they kept prodding me to 'get on with it!') I was misled and under duress.
I intend to file a complaint when I get back.
Totally false advertising.
"I dwell in possibility."
"Say what you want and be who you are, because those who matter don't mind, and those who matter don't mind."--Dr. Seuss
"I learned long ago, never to wrestle with a pig. You get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it."
George Bernard Shaw
Er, yeah Kez but I found it very hard to argue with a booming voice in Limbo.
Second star to the right and straight on till morning
Why did I choose to be a cross dresser? I have no idea. It was just at some point it was something I wanted to try and quickly realized that I completely enjoy the feelings and experience. It is not something I can or want to do every day, although to be dressed for a full 24 hrs is an experience I would like to try. As I write this I'm completely dressed in a dress, boots, wig, forms and full make-up and am loving it. Tonight, when my wife gets home I will be the man she married and will have no regrets.
Nature, nurture, some combination of the two . . . doesn't really matter a whole lot. I have no control over having the desire to dress. I can only control whether or not I do.
The real choice is what NickiB said -- I can choose to accept myself or I can fight it for the rest of my life and be miserable in so doing.
-KatieC
Nature or Nurture, Why did you choose to be this way?
I was born who I am; physically features, personality, traits, likes and dislikes, all of who I am. Nurture can influence, tweak and change these to a point which is different for each one of us.
It is society and people that categorize, group and label everything so they can better deal and relate.
KimberlyS-CD
joe in a skirt. Being myself not trying to be some other CDer
Just trying to find a balance for my son and myself.
Standard disclaimer: Going out of the house was right for me, it may or may not be right for you. If you've got no desire to leave the house, that's fine, I'm not trying to push you out the door. But for those who've been yearning to do so, I just want to let you know the world may not be as scary a place as you think.
Choice: live as me, or die.
Remember always that you have not only the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one. - Eleanor Roosevelt
The most universal quality is diversity. - Michel de Montaigne
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‘Them as can do, has to do for them as can’t. And someone has to speak up for
them as has no voices.’ - Terry Pratchett, The Wee Free Men
I for one happen to be a TS. This is not something I chose to be but this is the way I was born. I suppose all of us, including CD's, just have to learn how to deal with it. I can't imagine someone waking up one morning and say "Hey, I think I'll be a tranny and to heck with the way society feels about it". Most people just don't do things like that.
Kisses, Linda
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