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[darla_g]

none of the above. i like dressing, but i can't say that either is an impediment to my work or my relationships. If there is a real problem i have it is probably ADD which causes me to not finish things in a timely fashion

[Lilith Moon]

I like an occasional drink and will partake of substances now and then. I also get p*ss*d off at times. But I can't say that any of the items figure in my current lifestyle.

[bEEb]

If we look at that list, we will find it is a mixture of "cause and effect". Many of the ensuing problems are a result of destructive behaviours that are listed. (I understand some of those problems can also be stand alone afflictions, so don't harangue me about that). A hedonistic life of over indulgence will inevitably lead to mental and physical disorder. Every thing in moderation. Easy to say, hard to follow. Now which is the lesser of them evils? I think I'll save them for later on.

[Sophie_C]

I don't get this thread. These things are all completely healthy and fine:

Prescription Drugs
Tattoo
Body Piercing
Plastic Surgery

???

[bEEb]

Well, I think they are talking about "abuse" and compulsion here.
Alcohol can be wonderful too. For some ... recreational chemicals are fine, aside from being illegal in most places. Eating is another acceptable behaviour. Until it becomes obesive? (new word) or anorexic.

[jessielee]

i selected alcoholism and sex addiction. should have included depression, though perhaps i'm only melancholic or "moody" as the mother of my first child imagined explained away all manner of emotional abuse of me.
by the grace of God and a fellowship of recovering addicts, i have not had an alcoholic drink for 14 years next month. i was hiding from reality and dulling pain i could not face.
feeling a weirdo all my life, maturing and finding i could be appealing as a sex partner went straight to my head as such a major drug, to be approved of and acepted, even "loved." this was irresistable, at least to my hunger.
but the crucial problem or personality disorder in my psyche is passivity. not having a father, i felt rejected, rejectable, unwanted. when i looked at girls
on the playground, i saw similar creatures to myself, gentle, emotional, playful, sharing humans, vs, the brash, rough, aloof, "cool" young male creatures around me. i knew who i felt like and who i wanted to be and it was to be like them. it seemed to me it was approved by society for girls to be expressive and emotional and upfront. i imagined nothing, as a seven year old, of catty or maniupulative but girls aren't those either, humans are. and, because i was "soft" and efeminate, i do not mean to presume that gfs are soft or passive nor should they be. only that i was. self consciously "always at fault," in need of changing, conforming, insecure to a fall. that was and is me. when i'm not "on," of course, in a stage sense.
and when i look at myself in the mirror, my face framed in soft curls, my eyes sincere and outgoing, shaded and lashed, the corners of my lips turned upward in hope and expectation for a better world of acceptance and tolerance, i approve of myself and, accepting, forgive. myself and all of them.
this is who i had wished i was, genetically.
this is who i am.
thank you sisters,
jessie

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

None of the above for me! I do like to crossdress, is that a bad aversion?

[RobertaFermina]

I was fat, and would not even try to diet.
Finally it was do something different or die, so I took the 12-step route.
10months later it was all gone, and 4 years later it is still gone.

Two years after letting go the weight, I picked up the dress !

Roberta

[joann07]

Dangit! Super heroine (Wonder Woman) is not on the list. Just kidding.
I really don't apply to any of those on the list.
I'm just the perfect Catholic School girl.

Hugs!

[Bethany38]

Well I have been an alcy for years I smoke I have depression, and I'm addicted to sex with my loving wife. However I maccept my faults and try to out grow them. Things have began too change since I came out too my wife and she was totally accepting. I wish everyone had the same experience I have with their SO. I have been a party person my whole life, now things I used to use to get the feeling of excitement from partying are being replaced by the calm of being Bethany. I am thankful for my wife and each andevery one of you. My only wish is that I had the freedom to dress all the time.

[Daphne]

Non of the above, unless you count crossdressing.

[Bethany_Anne_Fae]

depression and dysphoria

[Katie Ashe]

Yes bEEB your right on track. Well, I'm really impressed by some of the responses. I did miss exerciseing, that's a good one. I didn't consider dressing as it the reason most of us are here. I was focusing on more of the neg behavior stuff. Shopping and gambling should have been added too. I was going to add "working" as a family destructive one, but decided to keep it more "you" instead. I miss spelled depression, sorry for that. The reason I started this was to poll for a friend of mine doing research but is to shy to ask. Everything here is private, she is just looking for numbers.

Seems some of you may consider dressing a neg behavior ...My non-self destructive, I'm obsessed with stockings of any kind, and shoes too. But for me they are healthy behaviors not bad ones. Keep the poll going friends

[lauraletsrock]

You left out the biggest addiction of all: shopping!! Or maybe that's because it's it's a cure: retail therapy. It helps me deal with the voices in my head that keep telling me to buy more shoes!

[Joy Carter]

Life long depression and workaholic. Other than that I'm completely normal.

[AshleyM]

None of the above, although I love to shop..........

[lisalove]

Another shopper here. I can't walk into a store and not buy something. Unless of course, I'm broke. Then again I wouldn't be broke if I didn't shop all the time.

[Roberta Rain]

I am an over achiever, and an absolute history and science nerd. I maybe work out a bit too much at times. I'm also sometimes a bit anti-social, but that's probably more from being allienated and wierd because of being extremely high IQ (high enough to be in the range where it correlates strongly with unusual personality traits) and borderline (or maybe well past the border) high functioning aspergers. Other than that, I once had a couple year long bout with PTSD in my early 30s (well earned and thoroughly recovered, I think) and a couple year long battle with anxiety and panic attacks (totally inexplicable, but also recovered, with a lot of benefits from what I learned in the process) back in my early 20s. I've been to a mental health professionals office exactly once in my life. I learned everything I felt I needed to know about why I was there in 30 minutes. I'm grateful for the experience and it helped a lot. I am a much sweeter person if I include dressing in my life than if I go for periods when I do not. I have no significant self destructive or other-destructive patterns. I am a business owner, artist, martial arts instructor, pacifist, vegetarian, healthy, very light drinking, liberal, quasi-hippy, cross dressing, happy, nice guy. Oh, and don't forget modest! LOL. I hope this helps with your friend's research. I did not vote in the poll because nothing applied.

[suspender]

Chocoholic! After all, we are gals are'nt we? Not on the list, but i hear its a pandemic.....

[Angela Burke]

I didn't vote for any on your list either.
You certainly know how to cheer a girl up!
Why didn't you put hanging yourself, slashing your wrists, or sticking your head in the gas oven?

[Katie Ashe]

Why didn't you put hanging yourself, slashing your wrists, or sticking your head in the gas oven?

Well I did consider Child Porn, STD's, and Drinking Gasoline... but they didn't make much sense either

[Andine]

Just addicted to my bike at the moment!

Regards