My wife knows I crossdress, but I doubt she knows to what extent. She thinks it's wierd, and does not seem to want anything to do with it. I don't shove it in her face, either. I dress only when she is not home, and only when I know she will not come home and "surprise" us both. I respect her wishes enough to go back to guy-mode well before she gets home, and I always try to make home a place where she is glad to be. It's our Sanctum Santorum.
We never discuss the crossdressing. I think that's the way she wants it. I'm okay with it, too. It's what works for us, and it seems to be working very well.
So anyway, last night, when getting ready for bed, I reached for my toothbrush, and saw again that it was all worn out. I didn't have a spare, and I always forget to get one when I'm at the store. I think I usually get mine from the dentist. So I asked my wife if she had one I could have. She looked in her drawer in the bathroom, and did indeed have one. So she gave it to me. The only thing is, it's pink. I jokingly said to her to not tell anyone I now had a pink toothbrush. She answered back with a kind of sideways glance and a smile, "It's okay, we both know you like pink!" I even got a little kiss afterwards.
Sometimes the small things make us feel the best.