I started to post a reply to one of the new threads about unsuccessfully coming out to your SO but I decided to rather make an personal statement about relationships.
We meet someone who was are physically attracted to or may like their personality, their values, or have similar liking of the same activities. As we get to know them we develop a relationship based upon some initial feeling that you might have for one another. Some of you come out in the beginning and some of us come out later.
WHEN IS THE BEST TIME TO COME OUT WITH YOUR CROSSDRESSING?
I believe that you should have some firm foundation of a relationship before you share your secret. Why do I believe this? Because the best way to be accepted as a crossdresser is to be able to establish that no matter what you are wearing that you are the same person.
My SO is my best friend. We made a promise to love and honor one another. Whether I am wearing pants or a skirt our promises to one another have remained the same. Yes, we have changed in the years together but we have changed together in the same direction because we have a strong relationship of not only loving one another but liking one another.
If your relationship is based upon your SO liking who you are then, I believe, that you can safely depend on being somewhat accepted. Initially there may be some questions but relationships are built on trust and fidelity and if you are true to your promise to your SO then I think you have a better chance of surviving your confession.
If your relationship is based upon a physical attraction, liking to party together, or some other external compatibility then I think that you may be less successful in your confession.
For those of you who have been unsuccessful in coming out, why were you not accepted?
I hope this provokes several replies from both successfull and unseccessful confessions. Thank you for listening and commenting.