I was going to post this in answer to another thread, but didnt want to sound critical of the individual. So these are my thoughts which were initialised after reading someone being disappointed/aggrieved/insulted by being described as a guy in a dress.
But we ARE guys in dresses .... it is not an insult .. its the truth!
The camera is kind to me - in "real life" . out there in the world (where I now spend 50% time en femme) although I get very little hassle .. I am what I am - a guy in a dress.
Now add into the equation that an SO recently "dumped on" (been told or found out after being deceived - and lets be honest - lied to) knows "the man" then no matter how you present she will always see YOU under the wig/makeup etc.
I didn/t mean this to sound harsh or a criticism of anyone here. I am making a general statement that:
1) because we ARE built differently,
2) because we might not be able to afford a really good wig,
3) because we have big feet and big hands
4) because we have broader shoulders, thicker arms,
5) because we have a waist in the wrong place and quite often boobs that are too big and too high ....
6) because our makeup skills may be lacking at times
7) because (add your own here .... )
well its no surprise that no matter how good I feel about myself, no matter how kind a camera is,no matter my mirror may lie to me - others will see "a guy in a dress".
I am comfortable with that and just get on with being me. Its nice to be "ignored" or not noticed and treated with respect. I even am called "madam/miss" and treated as if I were a female - BUT I am not a woman as much as I like to present as one.
Some of us are blessed with enough money to buy well, makeup skills honed over time, a figure to die for and a femme demeanour. Most if us aren't.
I just feel we might do better as crossdressers to be happy to be happy whilst dressed. To enjoy feeling womanly or feminine. To sometimes look in a mirror and feel good about ourselves - but to be Ok about the fact we are "guys in dresses and ... so what!
(I recognise that issues may be different for TG/TS girls who feel they ARE a woman and live as a woman rather than a CD who enjoys his femininity from time to time).
No offence intended to anyone.