The answer is a resounding YES. If I told any of my relatives or friends, I would almost certainly lose their resepct. Even with those whose respect I would not lose, they would no longer be able to see my male aspect as it has been and still is. They would certainly have trouble with understanding a person with two aspects and accepting the female one. I would become some kind of hybrid. Revealing my CD would cause far more problems than it would solve. I would have to go though a great deal of readjustment in my relationships but even worse force the people I reveal this to to do the same.
It's not only a question of getting up the courage to overcome my fear but one of forcing myself to put a heavy burden on these people, causing them considerable grief. For a married person, revealing his CD inclination may be unavoidable, but for someone who is single, it may unnecessarily cause damage to his reputation and needlssly burden others. In other words, in some cases it might be just downright selfish.
