Over the years I've read hundreds or maybe thousands of posts by CDrs that either have accepting wives or ex-wives because of what we do. I've often wondered how the totality of us break down. Forgive me if this has been done before, but I want to put together a survey to see just how we break down as of now. Please choose from the survey the position you and your wife are in relative to your crossdressing.
Vivian
Although part of the reason I married her is that she is more of a 'tomboy' and just doesn't ever express her feminine side. No makeup doesn't even own a dress. She is one of those 'messy' people instead of an 'ideal girl'. I have more girly clothes than she does and that isn't all that much.
In many respects I've been the wife for over 20 years even though she is not in touch with any of her 'male side' and rejects any swapping of roles. I'm the one who keeps the house clean, who cooks for the family and generally keeps us all together.
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I found it was not possible to make the difference between :
"Wife tolerates" and
"She doesn't want to see you dressed".
That's exactly my wife's position :
She tolerates my crossdressing provided that she doesn't see me dressed.
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Nadia
My wife decided, after 25 years of being together, that the relationship was over, primarily due to my being a cross dresser. I relaize now, after being on my own and having time to reflect on things that she used that as an excuse to end the relationship.
What stop do I get off at? Hmmm...
Certainly, I can't imagine crossdressing as the unique cause of ending a otherwise satisfactory relationship.Originally Posted by melissacd
my wife is thawing slightly but generally is unhappy - regarding my cd as a perversion which should be cured with an anti-tranny pill or i should not indulve these fantasies by my willpower.
in fact i am going to see my doctor tomorrow with her so that we might have an independent opinion and possible counselling
mitch
Funny - Half a world away and were married to the same woman.....
My wife dropped a bomb on me last November when in a casual conversation she told me she knows I'm a crossdresser.Since that point she has taught me the meaning of the word acceptance. She accept me for who I am but also doesn't want to see me dressed. She says I'm the man she married and that's who she wants to think of me. We also have an 8 year old and that in itself limits my dressing. She may eventually thaw a bit but I'm happy today.
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Megan
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My wife is behind me about 90%. The only thing she balks at is me out in public in a skirt or dress and heels.
My wife dumped me because i admitted i cross dress!!
That and the fact i spend too much time working on my cars!!
Vivian, perhaps you ought to ask a mod to add 'Doesn't know' and 'Doesn't want to know' to your options?
Nicki
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I'm still trying tto figure out if my wife knows and just ignores my "things". I hate to admit it, but I will admit that I have been running scarred with this through the years............ Out in the open, I don't know what would happen. 34 years of marriage at risk.
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You beat me to it!
I was gonna say "On her back with her legs in the air".
What could be bad?
I was gonna say "On her back with her legs in the air".
I have a girlfriend who is not only supportive, but she will buy me stuff when she's out shopping. In order to find her I used my rigorous system to filter between the open minded and closed minded women on the first date:
"So I was downtown yesterday and I saw this crossdresser..."
"That's so disgusting."
"Check, please"
My wife knows and is OK with my dressing we go shopping together and she will ask if there is something need. she's just not to keen on taking it to bed. and I give her the weekends as her Husband And this totally works for us.
angie
I don't know...maybe because I don't have one of those.
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Agreed! And maybe, "I Don't Think She Knows But I Could Be Wrong!"Vivian, perhaps you ought to ask a mod to add 'Doesn't know' and 'Doesn't want to know' to your options?
Yes, these are responses that I think should be included in the poll. In my case, it's "doesn't know."Vivian, perhaps you ought to ask a mod to add 'Doesn't know' and 'Doesn't want to know' to your options?
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My wife dosent understand at all and dont like it but loves me and i love her so im miserable and cant express my self at lest not in front of her i wish she could understand ive been this way all my life i guess ill never be happy she understands the pantys but not the makeup or dress or hoss or anything id give anything to be a woman and fell femine i try every chance i get and i love it but what can i do? she said she would help me buy clothes but gets mad and makes me fell wrong
obviously since I am a GG I can't answer this poll, just wanted to give you a.... I am sorry you feel miserable...that has got to be a horrible feeling , to not be able to be yourself, your true self... she may be afraid that she would lose "you" if you were as fem as you wanted to be and if she loves you then for her that is a feeling that probably scares her to death! Maybe if you let her know that by being fem will not mean losing you she might change her feelings...
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My wife is somewhere between the top 2. We go shopping togeather and she buys me things, but I thing she would prefeer if i did not cd. But she also knows this is part of who I am. She does not say anything when I dress and helps with make up from time to time.
Same here! I don't think she knows, but she sometimes says things that make me wonder! Still, I'm too scared to tell her. Not scared that she will leave me, but scared that I will really hurt her.
As soon as I put on heels, I AM a girl!
She has seen me dress several times, but no way does see does she want to see me dressed now. Sometimes she will joke when we're out shopping and talk about how this or that dress would look on me. Or sometimes she may bring a pair of pantyhose home and give them to me, but that's as far as it goes.
Not married yet....so I didn't vote.
My dearly devoted S.O. participates and encourages.
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