Hi all! I have been lurking for awhile, and have learned a lot. I am a GG who is in love w/ a closeted crossdresser. I have no one to talk to about this and I finally decided to post to get some things off my chest. Hopefully this will make me feel better, and I honestly don't want to offend anyone.
Honey,
So one day I find out about your CD, and I don't say anything to you. I admit, I was a little freaked out and didn't know if I could handle it. After I did some research on the subject, I came to the conclusion that it's really no big deal and it didn't change the fact that I want to spend my life w/ you. For weeks, I wondered on how to tell you that I knew, and under the advice of some other CD'ers I met in a chat room, I approached you in what I thought was a very loving, accepting way.
To say that it did not go well, is an understatement. Since then, the whole subject has been not been discussed. I think my confronting you helped kill our sex life.
Sometimes I want to scream at you "I know you have a lot of guilt about this, but this is not a big deal! You are normal! You are not a pervert! You are not a freak! Just let me in for god's sake!"
So here we are, a year later. I've put on about 30 lbs, and I realized recently that I am literally starving for your love, affection, and acceptance. I have been trying to lose weight, and have lost about 10 lbs, but am nowhere near where I want to be. Our sex life is non-existant, and I can't help feeling so rejected and unloved.
To be honest, the only thing that concerns me about your CDing is your attraction/fascination w/ t-girls. I don't get it, and I don't know if it is related to the CDing at all, or something else in it's own right. It is threatening to me in a couple diferent ways. One, I can't compete with that, I don't have the parts (not that I wouldn't be willing to buy them ); and two, t-girls tend to have the heavily made-up, glamorous look. I like getting made/dressed up occasionally, but day-to-day I am more of a natural look. I worry that makes me unappealing to you.
I want you to know that all your kinks are things that I would explore w/ you, and if you would only open up to me, I would fulfill all of you fantasies. I'm not a prude, do you think I've never come across these things before? Can't you see how good our life could be? I can't help but think that sharing this part of your life w/ me would bring us closer, something I so desparately need.
From what I know about you, and from what I have learned from this forum, I think your CDing is fetishized, and is more related to the sexual expierence. I could be wrong, and I do have some questions, but I want to be clear that there is no judgement on my part.
I don't know, maybe too much damage has been done, maybe there is no going back to where we once were. I think about leaving all the time, and I think you would not care. I used to feel so safe w/ you, and I used to feel truly loved by you. I haven't felt that way in a long time.
I resent the fact that to open up the discussion, I would have to come to you. Dammit, I want you to come to me! I want you to make the effort! I want you to try to save this relationship! I obviously don't know what I am doing.
I want you to know that I actually had a fantasy the other day about applying your make-up, and it got me kinda hot.
I still love you.