Quote Originally Posted by Jenny Beth View Post
It has been many many years since I've ventured into gay or lesbian bars. My observations were this:

Gay bars....Men are there to find men, I stuck out like a sore thumb all dolled up as if I was going to a wedding and no one paid any attention to me.

Lesbian bars.... Women are there because they don't want to hang out with men and very few dress in a feminine way. I stuck out like a sore thumb all dolled up as if I was going to a wedding and no one paid any attention to me.
Well, if you venture into a "straight" bar while being "all dolled up as if ... going to a wedding", you will still look out of place. This has nothing to do with orientation, and everything to do with how women dress for different types of events and places.

I know of plenty of queer women who are femmes, and who routinely go to dyke bars looking very feminine. I also know of places where queer women who look very feminine don't look out of place at all. Dressed in a sexy, provocative outfit? Absolutely. Dressed like they were going to a heteronormative wedding? Not so much.

As to the original post, I don't see much future for a male-bodied crossdresser trying to hook up with lesbians in a gay/lesbian bar. It's not going to be a common result.