First sexual meeting

[mandyb]

I am fairly new to cross dressing but realised recently it all started when I was around 10yrs old and remember trying on a pair of my mums boots.Anyway thats a little about me. The reason for the post is because I have been speaking to a few girls since I have been dressing and very flattered that some of them wish to meetup.Some just want to meet and chat but some of them want something more from the meeting.This really excite`s me and I was told to take note of these feelings as they are likely to be my true thoughts.But this just adds to my confusion as I am heterosexual or so I thought.Does this mean I am bisexual ?

Can I also ask what are your experiences,how did you deal with your first sexual encounter.Did you have full sex or did you try other forms of release first.

[Desiree2bababe]

I had the same fears and in all reality, I suppose I'm bisexual because of my desires for men while dressed. I feel into the arms of my first man, literally to my knees.

Good luck, just be honest with your feelings. Nothing wrong with liking both worlds.

[lisa_e_love]

Something may excite you in your head but not excite you in reality. If you're feeling adventurous, by all means test the waters, but be cautious because you might not like everything that you have good feelings about in your mind.

[Mashough]

I share the same feeling as you.
Although I had not the experience of having to be with the same sex, but I often think about it and feel excited and scare at the same time.
It's good to know that others share the same feelings.

[amber 07]

Do yourself a favour and take the sexual orientation test in this forum. It will probably help you decide on the sexual confusion you are now going through. All the luck to you. Hugs, Amber

[~Seana~]

.But this just adds to my confusion as I am heterosexual or so I thought.Does this mean I am bisexual ?

Can I also ask what are your experiences,how did you deal with your first sexual encounter.Did you have full sex or did you try other forms of release first.[/QUOTE]

It might. I'm bisexual and it took me a LONG time to admit that, mostly because I had a long term partner who ridiculed such things. In fact in my first sexual experience with a genetic male I STILL wasnt sure, I just knew that I enjoyed what I had done.
And THAT really is the crux of it. You're taught from birth that homosexuality is bad very similarly to crossdressing. In the end though, it's your decision wheather it is or not. You live by your rules not societies. If it feels good, and is something you want to do, why the heck not? Mind it helped incredibly that I had a supportive female partner who I would not be as comfortable as I am without. She encouraged me in more ways than I can count.

Amanda
The happy ****!

[CharleneT]

I second Lisa-e-love's thought on this one.

C.

[jenny logan]

I'm bisexual but it's been years since I've been with another man. The time in my life when I was having sex with men I was single and it was always only with other cds I met in clubs or bars. Since my wife entered my life I've been faithful to her but the memory of those homosexual encounters never really go away. She knows about my past and accepts my sexuality but I've never strayed from her because of all the love and support she offers me in my struggle to come to terms with my feelings and desires. We are what we are, but if you are in a committed relationship, cheating is still cheating and the consequences of that are far worse than acting on your impulses. Just another piece of the puzzle in dealing with my feminine side. Someday, I'll figure it all out and come to terms with it. For now, it's just day by day.

[JoanieLynn]

I knew by the time I was 16 yrs old that I was bisexual.I've been dressing since I was 15.At 16 I desired men when I was dressed as a woman.My first
sexual encounter came when I was 19 and I was dressed as a woman. Ever since then the only time that I'm ever with a man is if I'm dressed as a woman.I like the feeling of a man lifting my skirt and having his own way!oops!

[Raquel June]

I second Lisa-e-love's thought on this one.

C.

Me too (or third, or whatever).

If you're thinking about putting on boobs/makeup/wig and getting into a situation wth another person with boobs/makeup/wig, and if you would be disgusted by the situation if both of you got rid of the boobs/makeup/wig, it's going to turn out extremely awkward.

Even if a TG is pretty hot, the illusion falls apart fast when you start making out, unless she's had laser/electolysis done on her face. Think about the stubble. Think about the boy parts. Think about the man voice. Think about big hands touching you. If you're cool with that, go for it.

[deja true]

Mandy , hon, I'd be surprised if any CD says they've never had these thoughts. How can you avoid them if your intention is to have a woman's look, a woman's body and a woman's mind.

As a lotta the ladies have said, all you can do is "go with the flow" and work it out in your head on a case by case basis. Get rid of the guilt. If you're following a desire that hurts no one else and gives you pleasure, go where your heart leads you.

Beware the impetuousness produced by drink or pressure. You de-value sex by divorcing it from the pull of the heart. Do as you please, but don't do it for pleasure alone. You'll always want it to be associated with good memories, not more guilt and embarrassment.

[Fab Karen]

If you have fantasies of the non-heterosexual kind, experiment & discover more about yourself, what's right for you.

[Eugenie]

But this just adds to my confusion as I am heterosexual or so I thought.Does this mean I am bisexual ?

The real question shouldn't be whether you are hetero, homo or bissexual. The only question should be:"Am I really in love (or at least badly turned on...) with that person?" and the second question then becomes "Do I let my senses guide my behaviour or do some other motives tell me that I shouldn't let my senses take over..."

Can I also ask what are your experiences,how did you deal with your first sexual encounter.

My first experience took me by surprise... I felt really attracted to the person (another CD sister) and it was reciprocal... It turned out that she started pretty soon to act as a man with me and that my senses completely surprised me... I was completely seduced and abandonned... It didn't matter what was the gender of the person I was with. I just felt so good...

Did you have full sex or did you try other forms of release first.

On your last question, at that point it was almost irrelevant. It just happened that we didn't go all the way... But that wasn't even important anymore...

I think sexual behaviour with a partner requires a mutual respect and a true relationship, be it a woman, a crossdresser or a man...


Eugenie

[Nicole Erin]

You might just enjoy the idea of a man being turned on by you.

Men are kind of gross in my taste. Yeah it would be cool knowing a guy was going to think of me when he was with his wife that night but yeah fantasy and reality are not the same.

[Vicky_Scot]

Mandy , hon, I'd be surprised if any CD says they've never had these thoughts. How can you avoid them if your intention is to have a woman's look, a woman's body and a woman's mind.

What an absolute ridiculous statement.

Talk about generalisation.

[DemonicDaughter]

First you might want to take a look at this thread. There are a lot of good responses there. I am bisexual and this is something most people feel from puberty on. Many who only feel it "at times" or under "certain circumstances" are called bi-curious.

Is it possible you are? Sure. Is it probable? Not likely as most people of any sexual orientation will tell you its all the time or they've known since puberty.

Don't get me wrong, there is that possibility, but please know, bisexuals fall in love with people of any gender. Its not just sexual and that's a very big difference.

[MichelleOBrien]

okay, here's the deal. I've been where you are. It's all about how far you are actually willing to go. If you're out there and you see a guy and you start talking...let's say he wants to touch you. are you comfortable? what if he kisses you...or invites you to his place. If at any point you get uncomfortable, STOP. You have the right to say no, and if you need any safety tips, it's in a sticky on the top of the forum. It took me four tries before I found somebody I was comfortable with. It may take you only one, or it might take thirty. it depends on how comfortable you are and how many times you're willing to put yourself out there.

That's really about it. Have fun and let us know what happens. You know, us girls want details!!!

[DawnRodgers]

As with most, it started "innocently" enough. The feel of nylons, garters, bra. The look of a feminine body. The skirt, my breasts sticking out. my hair sweeping my shoulders. The touch abd taste of my lipstick, the look and feel of my mascara and eye shadow,. That was sensual enough. Then the mind change from wow thios is sexy to how do I look to others. Reading TV literature and looking at photos. Wpndering how it would be like to be with a man. Wanting to be with a man. Enjoying the femininity of being with a man. Wantong aman exclusively.
That has been my journey. Obviously not everyone has gone down this path but it one I have traveled and do not regret.
Dawn

[SarahHall]

I never had desires for men until I slipped on my first pair of panties and nylons and new I was bi-sexual right then. I was fortunate to find the right guy and we had very nice sexual relationship.

[Rachel Morley]

If the thought excites you perhaps this could be the legendary and infamous "bi when dressed" scenario. I don't have it myself but I think I understand it. When dressed, the ultimate feminizing experience is to "use a man" as you see fit to be a girl's "must have accessory"

[jasmine57]

I think you should enjoy the feelings you're having. Being bisexual is not a curse. But putting a label on it takes the fun out of it. Go with what you feel. You'll know very quickly if it's for you or not. I've know I'm bisexual for many years, it just took 40 years to act on it. I've enjoyed my experiences and wouldn't trade them for the world. Don't let anyone talk you into or out of expanding your experiences. Go with your heart and be honest with yourself. You'll know what to do when the time comes.

[sandra-leigh]

Let me add the usual caveats:

- protect your physical safety, especially with anyone you don't know well. That can mean things like hourly cell-phone check-ins with a friend who always knows where you are... meeting in public first, and so on

- protect your sexual safety. Wear protection, no ATM, and so on.

- If you are currently in a relationship with someone, STOP and think about what this could do to your relationship, especially if the other person doesn't know. If Sally is exclusive with you, and you pick up an STD from a secret encounter with Harry, and you give it to Sally, she is not going to thank you for it.

[Raquel June]

- protect your sexual safety. Wear protection, no ATM, and so on.

Whoa!

That's sound advice... but... WHOA!

Is it bad that this cracked me up -- the way you just threw it in there casually? I don't think anybody does that outside porn anyway. Is it even legal?

[sandra-leigh]

(re: ATM)

I don't think anybody does that outside porn anyway. Is it even legal?

Legal in Ohio? Yes, as long as the woman isn't wearing patent leather shoes.

(And no, I'm not just making that up!)

[Elizabeth Ann]

(re: ATM)


Legal in Ohio? Yes, as long as the woman isn't wearing patent leather shoes.

(And no, I'm not just making that up!)

ATM? Okay, I'm not the most experienced person in the world. The only ATM I know is the machine where you get money, and a computer acronm. Your going to have to explain this one.

Elizabeth