forgive the long post but I just had to tell everyone about this weekend.
This has been a very interesting weekend for me. It all started two weekends ago, when my wife volunteered to work the local library book sale. She was to work the 12-3PM slot. Up to then, we had this understanding that I could get dressed and even go out, as long as she did not see me fully dressed or knew. So having a three hour window, I decided to get dressed and go over the to local ROSS store. They were having a big sale that weekend. So I get dress and as I walk into the garage, I come face to face with my wife. It turns out that she was supposed to work the 3-6PM slot, not the 12-3PM slot. Back into the house we go and sit down across from each other at the kitchen table. We sat there and talked for way over a hour. At one point she tells me, that I look nice and at least I am not wearing a mini-skirt, fishnet stockings, and 5” spike high heels. I explain that first that is not my style and the last thing I want is to be noticed when I go out dressed. I got the sense that she had a preconceived idea of what crossdresser looked like and that was of either a **** or a drag queen. I think seeing me dressed as I was, lessen some of the fear she had of my CDing. I am sure now that that talk has helped her become more tolerant and accepting of me being a CDer. She wanted to know how much clothing I have, so I take her into the computer room and pull the two big boxes off the shelf and show her what I have. I guess what she saw must have pleased her, because she points to an empty set of plastic bins and says, “Why don’t you put you clothing items in the bins.” I say, “OK” and we walk back to the kitchen. Remember I am still dressed this whole time too. LOL We talk some more and agree that she still does not want to see me fully dressed and when she volunteers again at the library or will be gone for more than two hours that she will take her cell phone with her. This way she can alert me when she is ready to drive home. I asked her if it would be OK for me to wear my Pink Satin PJ’s to bed. She says OK. So for the next two weeks I have been wearing them and panties in the evening and to bed. She knows that it is a form of CDing but sense I don’t have a wig or makeup on, I am not fully dressed and she over looks it. Then this last Saturday evening, which is the 1st Saturday of the month, is my monthly Tri-Ess meeting night. Normally my wife has MS water aerobics on this Saturday afternoon, last Friday evening she informs me that the pool heater was broken, so class was canceled. I reply that I have a Tri-Ess meeting the next evening. She replied, “So, you can still go to your meeting”. One of our agreements is that she does not want to see me fully dressed even after she accidentally saw me fully dressed two weekends ago. So how do I get dressed and get to the garage without her seeing me? It turns out that we have three doors that lead to the patio, one from the den, one from the living room and one from the master bedroom. Thus I could get dressed and go thru the door from the bedroom to the patio, out the patio gate, thru the fence gate, and to the garage. I mention to my wife I could close the bedroom door, get dressed; go to the garage via this route. She says OK.
So Saturday evening I take everything into the master bathroom, close the master bedroom door, and get ready. As I am getting ready, I realize I am a little nervous because my wife is also in the house. After checking myself for the fifteenth time in the mirror, I open the bathroom door. As I walk into the bedroom, my wife is sitting on the bed. I look at her dumb founded because I was not expecting her to be there. I find my voice and ask her why she is sitting there. She replied “I want to see you dressed?” She then tells me to turn all the way around slowly. So I do and she gets off the bed, comes up to me, checks my makeup, and as she walks into the bathroom says, “Have a nice evening”. I am dumb founded as I watch the bathroom door close. So I decided no sense going to the garage via the patio, so I walk thru the house to the garage.
I go to my meeting and I tell the girls what has happen over the last two weeks. They are thrilled for me and keep telling me to stay calm, don’t push her and let her go at her own pace. This morning at breakfast, my wife starts asking questions about my meeting. In the past she has never asked about my Tri-Ess meetings. It was like they did not exist. So I ask her what she wants to know about. She wanted to know, how many ladies were there, what we talked about, what we do at the meetings, and etc. So I tell her all about the meeting. I decide not to leave anything out. She sits there eating and not saying anything, but looking at me the whole time. She is surprised that some wives are at the meeting. Then she shocked me by saying, “Do I need an invite too attend one of your meetings”. I tell her No, that as long as I am a member, she is welcome to attend. She then says, “Well, I might go with you sometime then”. I am so shocked at this, that all I can say is “OK”.
I know everyone keeps telling me to take baby steps and go at the pace of your wife. The other girls at my Tri-Ess meeting told me the same thing last night. Well it is a little unsettling when your wife makes such drastic move like mine is doing. We finish breakfast and notice we are out of kitty litter, so off to Wally World we go. We pass by the shoe department and she decides that she wants some new sandals. She shocks me again by saying, “looks like they are having a shoe sale see anything you like to have?” I prefer Payless over WalMart and don’t really see anything I liked. As we continue on shopping, we pass by the woman’s section. As we do, my wife surprises me by saying, “You know it would be cheaper at a resale or second hand shop and many times you can get brand new items too and if you want, I can go with you .” I actually stopped right in my tracks. I could not believe what I just heard. She then surprised me again by asking where I got the lace LBD I have. I told her back in 2005 my sister was having a clothing drive for her church and it was among the items and when I found it fit me well, I decided to keep it. She replies that it is very pretty and with the black slingbacks I have, would be appropriate for some events. By the time we finally get checked out and back to the car, I am numb with disbelief. LOL
After dinner my wife changes into her PJ’s, robe, and slippers for the evening. I decide to do the same too. I walk into the living room to watch TV with her and she says, “Is that the only pair of satin PJ’s you have?” I say, “Yes, why”. She repiles, “Well you really need a second pair, so you can alternate with the wash. What size are they?” I tell her Large and she says while she is out tomorrow to her Weight Watchers meeting, she will stop at a local resale shop and see what they have.” All I can say is, “OK”.
So her I sit here writing all this still numb with disbelief about the whole weekend. I can hardly believe how accepting she is becoming.
All I can say ladies, is if you do tell your wife, be prepared for the unexpected and go with the flow. I am still going with the flow. Where it will take me, I have no idea. I feel extremely lucky because it could have very well turn out really bad as some of you know from your own experiences. If you get lucky like I have, enjoy the blessing and make sure you return the blessing to your wonderful wife.
Jessika!
