Pet Peeves about other CD's

[Eugenie]

So please tell me why so many of us feel the need to establish the "I'm straight" disclaimer. Otherwise, I guess someone might think we were.....heaven forbid.....DIFFERENT!

Yikes!

Yess indeed, that is what really bothers me too... As if there was something wrong about being gay.

The other thing that really upsets me is when someone is not tolerant about the way other CD live their lives (Note that it goes beyong sexual preferences). We should be the last ones to have a discriminatory attitude towards others just because they don't dress or behave in a certain way...


Eugenie

[Butterfly Bill]

How some "support" groups ostracize me because I choose not to shave off my beard. The people obsessed with "passing" in general.

(Do people who "wear panties 24/7" keep them on when they are in the shower or on the toilet?)

[Jacqui]

Here's my pet peeve with a caveat: to those I hold it against, I admire the most..

Just because you're in the darkest chasms of the closet, hiding things from the ones you love most, doesn't mean that you are a dishonest, lying, cheating, going to hell in a hand-basket individual. There are circumstances beyond your knowledge that disqualifies you from making statements such as: "Honesty is the best policy!" "If she loves you, she will accept you for who you are."

If it works for you, fine, I admire you...but please, don't preach to people whose whole lives could be turned upside down if their secret got out.

There! I've said it...now where's the "exhale" smiley?

[TGMarla]

This has so far been a really great list of common CD peeves, I think. And you're right, Buffalo Bill. You just do what you want to. Anyone who has a problem with it is likely the same ones who have a problem with everything else, too. Who the heck are we to say what's "normal" for a CDer? Is any one of us really going to stand up in front of others, point at someone, and say, "That person's wrong. I may crossdress, but I'm normal!" Give me a break.

If Doc or anybody else here wants to wear a mask, let her. Maybe she thinks she's ugly, or too old, and wants to have the appearance of a lovely young lady. Let her. Are you really going to tell me that your wearing a dress and heels is okay, but pretty masks aren't? Hey, they're not for me, but I understand if that's what a girl here wants to do. And incidently, DRS, I like you just fine. Nice pics, you just keep 'em coming.

If you want to obsess about passing, go ahead. It's a noble goal to strive for, to really pull it off well. But most of us don't, and won't. And that's fine, too. We're all in this same large glass house, so watch it with the stones.

I'm kind of in agreement with the 24/7 panty thing. I don't, and never have, found them to be all that comfortable. Not built for my plumbing or my build. But to each her own. I don't really care if you wear them 24/7, either.

The whole "pantyhose vs bare legs" argument is really tired. I wear pantyhose all the time for three reasons: I think hosiery is pretty, I enjoy wearing it for the look and the feel, and it covers up the hair on my legs. I hate it when other CDs tell me to shave my legs. You think I don't want to? Not everyone is at liberty to do so. Out of respect for my wife, and to avoid unwanted questions, I don't shave them, and I've found a way to live with that.

Finally, when other CDs try to push others out the door and into public, I think it's reckless in some cases. Many CDs are perfectly content staying home. Some are fine going out. It's not for everyone, and it's not some kind of knock on a girl if she chooses to stay home. At home I'm safe, I'm pretty, and I'm relaxed. Were I to venture out, I'd inevitably be read, which would make me nervous and uncomfortable. I do actually care what my neighbors think (well, sort of...), and I don't want to put my wife through it either. So for those of you who go out all the time, I'm very happy for you. But for those of us who don't, that's fine, too.

Oh, and I absolutely, positively, 100% totally agree with Jacqui.


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[Genifer Teal]

My pet peve is those (CD's) who wear a skirt or dress but fail to cross their legs when sitting. Some don't even try to keep their knees together. It is not like someone forced them to wear a skirt. They want to and know what to do but for some reason don't bother. Well, I don't need to know what is between your legs nor do I want to. Learn how to sit like a lady or spread your legs towards someone else.

Gen

[TracyH]

How some "support" groups ostracize me because I choose not to shave off my beard. The people obsessed with "passing" in general.

(Do people who "wear panties 24/7" keep them on when they are in the shower or on the toilet?)

I think not shaving your beard makes you more of a crossdresser, if you can imagine how that works. And I was wondering the same thing about the panties.

My pet peeve, however, may be for these people, or it's for the ones who respond to these people, because it's just catering to what they want: It's those people who may or may not be crossdressers who post their masturbatory fantasies up here with an incredulous story about how they were caught and humiliated and then forced to wear women's clothes all the time. It's always some not-at-all credulous story about how they dressed up in something "ultra ****ty" with "7 inch heels" (notice it's always 7 inch heels?) and then they get their head stuck in the sink drain, or whatever, only to be caught by either the mom or the sister, who, apparently, can only speak in run-on sentences (much like this paragraph), and says, "now you must wear womenclothes 24/7 that is your punishment you are a bad boy or should I say girl! hahahahaha!" And then they have sex.

Seriously, one time I saw my brain because I rolled my eyes so far from reading one of these stories.

[sandra-leigh]

My pet peve is those (CD's) who wear a skirt or dress but fail to cross their legs when sitting. Some don't even try to keep their knees together. It is not like someone forced them to wear a skirt. They want to and know what to do but for some reason don't bother.

Some of us have inner thighs that get in the way. Keeping our knees together is a distinct effort, and if we take our minds off of it for a moment, apart they go. And that's not even taking into account the things in-between that sometimes get in the way. It's not like riding a bicycle, where once you catch your balance you can do it without thinking.

[RockerTerri]

I think not shaving your beard makes you more of a crossdresser, if you can imagine how that works. And I was wondering the same thing about the panties.

My pet peeve, however, may be for these people, or it's for the ones who respond to these people, because it's just catering to what they want: It's those people who may or may not be crossdressers who post their masturbatory fantasies up here with an incredulous story about how they were caught and humiliated and then forced to wear women's clothes all the time. It's always some not-at-all credulous story about how they dressed up in something "ultra ****ty" with "7 inch heels" (notice it's always 7 inch heels?) and then they get their head stuck in the sink drain, or whatever, only to be caught by either the mom or the sister, who, apparently, can only speak in run-on sentences (much like this paragraph), and says, "now you must wear womenclothes 24/7 that is your punishment you are a bad boy or should I say girl! hahahahaha!" And then they have sex.

Seriously, one time I saw my brain because I rolled my eyes so far from reading one of these stories.

[charlie]

I do not see saying anything about our CD as being boring, degrading, perverted, unnecessary, or TMI. We all come on this forum because we are a group that is considered not only different by society, but really unbalanced and perhaps dangerous to the society. As such, we do not know how unusual our dressing really is. One quick way to see how strange we are is to put it out to this group. If our own group thinks we are weird and tells us we are perhaps we should listen. On the other hand if we are given answers that tell us lots of other folks think and do as we are doing, then we feel better about ourselves. If I feel awful about wearing panties and nylons everyday under my suit each day at work and write about it on this forum, most of you would probably tell me not to feel bad and go ahead. I then would think it was really no big deal and not feel like a leper in society.

[TSchapes]

People that don't see the big picture. People that don't understand that the TG community is a big tent where everyone should feel wanted, valued and nurtured. This is regardless of where they fit on the TG continuum. From the person that only needs a pair of panties to make them feel whole. The person that is so trapped in their situation that the only way to feel feminine is to use a mask. The person that refuses to show their face because they may jeopardize everything they've worked for their whole lives by one capricious happenstance. The person that goes out dressed and doesn't look anything closely resembling a girl, and yet feels liberated by doing so. The person that knows they are going to be read and feels so what, I'm me darn it, I want to do this for me, I don't care what others may think. The person that all they want to do is take pictures of themselves and enjoy the time afterwards by looking at those pictures. The person that's a knock out, absolutely beautiful looking girl that no one in a million years would suspect is a guy and gets a kick out of that sectret knowledge. The person that has an understanding SO, the ones that's don't, the people that have gone through hell and back just so they can express themselves. And the people that just know they are in the wrong body, where things have just got to change.

There are more of these varied types in the world and they all share the TG conundrum. But bottom line is, we are closer to one another in this TG world than all the rest outside this world. If we don't support each other, who will?

My pet peeve, might be bigger than a chipmunk though, but still a peeve.

Love, Tracy

[guardian832]

I think that the point to start "caring" is if they do wear their undies 24/7, do they change???????????

[Rachaelb64]

This has so far been a really great list of common CD peeves, I think. And you're right, Buffalo Bill. You just do what you want to. Anyone who has a problem with it is likely the same ones who have a problem with everything else, too. Who the heck are we to say what's "normal" for a CDer? Is any one of us really going to stand up in front of others, point at someone, and say, "That person's wrong. I may crossdress, but I'm normal!" Give me a break.

If Doc or anybody else here wants to wear a mask, let her. Maybe she thinks she's ugly, or too old, and wants to have the appearance of a lovely young lady. Let her. Are you really going to tell me that your wearing a dress and heels is okay, but pretty masks aren't? Hey, they're not for me, but I understand if that's what a girl here wants to do. And incidently, DRS, I like you just fine. Nice pics, you just keep 'em coming.

If you want to obsess about passing, go ahead. It's a noble goal to strive for, to really pull it off well. But most of us don't, and won't. And that's fine, too. We're all in this same large glass house, so watch it with the stones.

I'm kind of in agreement with the 24/7 panty thing. I don't, and never have, found them to be all that comfortable. Not built for my plumbing or my build. But to each her own. I don't really care if you wear them 24/7, either.

The whole "pantyhose vs bare legs" argument is really tired. I wear pantyhose all the time for three reasons: I think hosiery is pretty, I enjoy wearing it for the look and the feel, and it covers up the hair on my legs. I hate it when other CDs tell me to shave my legs. You think I don't want to? Not everyone is at liberty to do so. Out of respect for my wife, and to avoid unwanted questions, I don't shave them, and I've found a way to live with that.

Finally, when other CDs try to push others out the door and into public, I think it's reckless in some cases. Many CDs are perfectly content staying home. Some are fine going out. It's not for everyone, and it's not some kind of knock on a girl if she chooses to stay home. At home I'm safe, I'm pretty, and I'm relaxed. Were I to venture out, I'd inevitably be read, which would make me nervous and uncomfortable. I do actually care what my neighbors think (well, sort of...), and I don't want to put my wife through it either. So for those of you who go out all the time, I'm very happy for you. But for those of us who don't, that's fine, too.

Oh, and I absolutely, positively, 100% totally agree with Jacqui.


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Yep that about covers everything I was thinking off saying

Btw drop the pet peeve walk away from cus life is too long short to get caught up on stupid things.......... from a bloke in a dress

[Lora Olivia]

Ok I had to get in on this one lol. Butterfly Bill ...Nope don't wear em in the shower but yep damn sure do sittin on the W C, pulled to my knees actually like i have noticed GG's do. Oh and yes I guess if I have a pet peeve it would be the lack of tolerance amongst our own community. I mean if we all, with a somewhat common goal can't get along how can we expect the other 95 to 98.5% of the population to come to terms with us.


Lora

[Veronica Nicole]

In some ways I can understand it, and in other ways it doesn't make any sense. There seems to a lot of it lately. What is it with folks who are CD'ers and wannabe gurls who post pictures with masks on, or from the neck down, or with your back turned to us, or with spots over your face?
Do you wear a skirt to Panera and have lunch with a mask on?

I guess I'm one of those wannabe girls cuz I post pictures from the neck down, seems to me we all just wannabe girls here but when the wig, makeup and clothes come off look in the mirror and what do you see? As far as a pet peeve is men who try to act like women.

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[Melinda G]

Here's my pet peeve with a caveat: to those I hold it against, I admire the most..

Just because you're in the darkest chasms of the closet, hiding things from the ones you love most, doesn't mean that you are a dishonest, lying, cheating, going to hell in a hand-basket individual. There are circumstances beyond your knowledge that disqualifies you from making statements such as: "Honesty is the best policy!" "If she loves you, she will accept you for who you are."

If it works for you, fine, I admire you...but please, don't preach to people whose whole lives could be turned upside down if their secret got out.

There! I've said it...now where's the "exhale" smiley?

I agree 100%. You don't tell your wife or SO that you masturbate, or read porn. So why the need to tell anyone you crossdress, when it is sexually driven for most of us. All the "We're here for you" crap from the "Truth and Honesty Squad" doesn't mean much when the wife kicks you out of the house and files for divorce, or uses it against you in a custody battle, or you get fired from your job. Now that's being honest!

[LilSissyStevie]

My pet peeve is those petticoated, gun toting banjo players. I blame Ronald Reagan for throwing these people out in the street!!

[Damiana]

I have no pet peeve to share but I just want to say Thank You to all those who have contributed to this thread with their witty and humorous replies!

[Oddlee]

I have no pet peeve to share but I just want to say Thank You to all those who have contributed to this thread with their witty and humorous replies!

Good response, Damiana. I, too, have enjoyed reading the responses. I think the only time gender identity is important to me is when it concerns a person with whom I want to have sex. Otherwise, it's irrelevant. I've known gay men who have admired my chest ("would like to have that body" - I look like a [male] swimmer [which I am]), and women who have appreciated my company with or without boobs. The latter I've enjoyed on many levels, the former I've been friends with because sexual relationships with them were not part of the possible world.

So, I guess if I had a pet peeve, it would be when sex or gender presentation was considered important when it was really irrelevant. In a job interview (unless it was for the position of concubine or hooker) sex/gender presentation should be irrelevant.

Lee

[DemonicDaughter]

My pet peeve would have to be those that HAVE to segregate everyone into their own little category for the sake of... whatever.

Should we now have a section for the bisexual MTF pink panty wearers? One for the Grandma dressing Blue Bonnet on Tuesday wearers? The Only Attracted To Men When Dressed CDers?

[KandisTX]

I have to add that like TracyH my pet peeve would be those outrageous stories that would be more appropriate to "Fantasyfiction.com" then here. While some of my own posts may seem somewhat farfetched although 100% factual, (like my recent post where I stated that my wifes ex-boyfriend (who is the father of our children) now lives with us and recently decided it was okay to tell their son about Kandis).

The very idea that someone's mother would "catch" them and then force them to dress that way and "perform" in the manner described further in those posts. Hell, I know strippers that don't wear 7 inch heels

Kandis

[docrobbysherry]

In some ways I can understand it, and in other ways it doesn't make any sense. There seems to a lot of it lately. What is it with folks who are CD'ers and wannabe gurls who post pictures with masks on, or from the neck down, or with your back turned to us, or with spots over your face?
Do you wear a skirt to Panera and have lunch with a mask on?

you nailed it...they are not comfortable with who they are as a person...soon as they accept it and relax the "passing" will have grown 10 fold..you cannot be a lady if you are constantly tense and walk like a 300 pound gorilla....advice i received from my SO many many years ago

Perfect examples of what I mean.
"If you're NOT all about going out dressed, well, u can't be a REAL CD"!

Here's the deal: I'm perfectly comfortable with who I am. I'm NOT confortable being a CD out in public! I'm NOT trying to be a woman, just LOOK and maybe feel like one!
I'm a CLOSET CD, not a TS or TG individual. And there r a lot of others like me!

GIVE ME, ( all of us), A BREAK! Please?

[Claire3]

were all differant,if you dont like what some1 cares about,thats your life against theirs.You dont have to agree with everything said.Ive seen 1 or 2 threads that i think what the hell are you talking about.However i dont need 2 slag any1 off.Its a free forum,lets make the most of it girls.Ps,im blonde,not dumb!

[Vieja]

I don't have any peeves pet or otherwise. I just love coming here to read all the diverse opinions of the people that post their stories, opinions and words of wisdom. If I don't agree I just go on to the next post and maybe feel a bit sad for a sister with an unsolvable problem or have a chuckle over some words of wit.

Vieja

[trannie T]

I am so jealous of those who look better than I do. That includes nearly all of you. I hate you all!

[Niya W]

Dont worry. You still look better than half the women I worked with at my old job