My biggest gripe or "pet peeve" if you will, is the attitude that one must be seen in public and post pictures. Some of us are fairly well known and want to protect our private lives as well as protecting our families from ridicule.
My biggest gripe or "pet peeve" if you will, is the attitude that one must be seen in public and post pictures. Some of us are fairly well known and want to protect our private lives as well as protecting our families from ridicule.
I know what you mean, Laura. I just take it with a grain of salt, though. While I enjoy the opportunity to share here, this is where I can be open to people outside of my home. Going out in public dressed would be, for me, thrill seeking (I tend to resemble one of the Washington Redskin's HogettesOriginally Posted by Laura_Stephens
). However, for those girls here who do post pics and go out, I love you all and I'm thrilled that you are having such positive (for the most part) experiences. Everyone should accept that we all do what we do for the reasons we do and in the way that we do. No one way is wrong or right.
Meeting with another c/der [while dressed], who despite you telling them you are not interested in anything more than being friends, they still insist on trying to "grope" you!!!!
Yes..It happened to me recently and all it did was put me off dressing for a while and it definetily put me off going out again!!!
Last edited by Deborah Jane; 06-07-2008 at 02:52 PM.
I'll relate a situation here that did peeve me. Back about 10 years ago in my local CD group, a person attended regularly with his wife. She seemed a bit reluctant, if not uncomfortable, being there.
One thing that didn't seem to help matter was the fact that her husband spend most of the time chatting with the other crossdressers, and left her to fend for herself. There were no other wives there that evening.
I felt so sorry for her. I sat and talked with her. This woman was on the fence as it were and her husband was off doing hs thing, when he should have been engaging her, and helping her to understand.
I guess what I'm getting at is I hate it when a one gets so involved in things vis a vis crossdressing that they do it to the exclusion of others, such as spouses when the spouse is trying to understand.
Don't know if I'm making sense.
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Toni-Lynn
First off, I love this thread.. its made me laugh and think more than once.
I have to say that mine biggest pet peeve is not dressing age/weight appropriate. Ok, I know what's "appropriate" is in the eye of the beholder, and I won't begrudge anyone their wearing of a fantasy outfit from time to time, but there are so may options out there for us girls of all sizes, you can still be sexy without a beer gut hanging out over your skirt. Spandex is a dirty lie! One size does NOT fit all!!!
Also, it doesn't really happen here (thankfully).. but if I see one more from behind pic of someone bent over in a G-string (or less!)...That isn't even attractive if the hottest GG on Earth does it!
(please take this in the half-joking manner I meant it)
K
Oh it happens . . . we just get to most of those pics before anyone can see them. It's usually people who are so enthusiastic when they join that they don't take a minute to read the rules. We sort through those so you won't have to . . . that's why the staff closet is packed high with bleach.Also, it doesn't really happen here (thankfully).. but if I see one more from behind pic of someone bent over in a G-string (or less!)...
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[wendrme]What is it with folks who are CD'ers and wannabe gurls who post pictures with masks on, or from the neck down, or with your back turned to us, or with spots over your face?
That's my pet peeve - those who want to dictate to those not ready (for whatever reason(s)) to show their face (no matter how male looking?).
I completely agree. Dressing in a manner appropriate according to weight, age and size in general as well as according to the circumstances, is one of the things that I resent most.First off, I love this thread.. its made me laugh and think more than once.
I have to say that mine biggest pet peeve is not dressing age/weight appropriate. Ok, I know what's "appropriate" is in the eye of the beholder, and I won't begrudge anyone their wearing of a fantasy outfit from time to time, but there are so may options out there for us girls of all sizes, you can still be sexy without a beer gut hanging out over your skirt. Spandex is a dirty lie! One size does NOT fit all!!!
Also, it doesn't really happen here (thankfully).. but if I see one more from behind pic of someone bent over in a G-string (or less!)...
While it is peerfectly ok to have famtasies and fun in a fetichist manner, these should be reserved to private intercourse.
As you said,It often the case that x-dressers just reproduce a ****ty feminine image that is more looking like a "male fantazy" than a real female person. I have nothing against that if it remains a private endeavour...That isn't even attractive if the hottest GG on Earth does it!
If one plans to go out in public, using accepted dress codes (as a female of course) requires some modesty, albeit that some FaB can sometimes be themselves go over board... But in our case the hurdle is even more difficult to overcome...
Eugénie
Got to say, this is the only thing that's bothered my about a minority of people in the CD community. I love my fiance and I ask her to put up with enough without her having to worry that I'll throw on a skirt and then mess about with someone else.
Club wear is nice if you have the body for it and you are under 30, nothing better than to be dressed appropriately and have a cd sister/street walker come up to the table and want to be BFF's drawing everyones attention to you and the other ladies at the table. Doesn't take long for all of the wheels to start moving and the comments to start flowing about did you see the guys in the dresses sitting over there. You know the ones the ****ty dressed guy was talking too. Thats the way to ruin a great evening on the town in MHO.
calm down it's only a puppet. (brittish joke) my peeves are (gurls) and posting a preveures post and then, you go gurl,
stevie 0
Yeah, I never thought I would have to worry about that. After a few drinks, they all get even worse. People seem to think that all crossdressers are loose bisexuals. Or maybe they have hidden desires. But I have problems with lots of guys, not just CDs. I do find myself reminding my CD friends that I am NOT interested in sex with other people. I am married and only interested in GGs.Meeting with another c/der [while dressed], who despite you telling them you are not interested in anything more than being friends, they still insist on trying to "grope" you!!!!
Well, I didn't think I had any "pet peeves" until I read all of your responses.
For everyone who has complained about "Other Cd's forcing them to leave the closet," Nobody is forcing you to do anything! I don't think that you are even being pressured, UNLESS you are allowing yourselves to be pressured. If you feel some guilt about an issue, then it can seem that someone else is forcing you. It's also a very convenient way to pass off blame. "I didn't want to do it, but they all said to do it."
I think the whole purpose of this Forum is to create a DIALOG. In order to do that, people must express opinions. Hopefully when we have a significant thread going; all sides of an issue are written about and a huge variety of opinions are expressed. I have done it, but no one should have to...finish every sentence with a caveat to be completely P.C. Example: "I think you should try going out and joining a support group.....But, by all means it's your choice, and you don't have to do anything, you can stay right in the bedroom, you can gaze at the stars, etc. etc., ad nauseum!"
Personally, I think we get along pretty well. I don't see stupid flame wars, I don't see real nastiness. We can get testy, but anybody writing here has to expect differing ideas. Do I think you should "tell your wife." Yeah, maybe....usually, but I never did. And; it's just one idea among many. You have to pick!
By the way, you also have the right to have a "pet peeve," about anyone or anything you want. I'm just trying to clarify.
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My most relevant pet peeve is not specific to CDing (as none of them are) This pet peeve (I have many) is about discussions on pet peeves. A pet peeve is something that annoys the individual citing the pet peeve. It may seem illogical to everyone else on the planet, but that doesn't matter because that is why it is a pet peeve in the first place. So don't get mad about other people's pet peeve if you know you do it, that person who is annoyed by you is being illogical and therefore you shouldn't be annoyed by it... unless that is your pet peeve. Then by all means be annoyed.
- Natalie
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i havent developed any pet peeves yet... give it time
I don't like how when some people here dress they indicate that they become sexually promiscuous, even to the extent of altering their sexuality....this is especially irksome for the ones in relationships????....I don't get it, I don't wish to get it either. It does sadden me though, that thats how ill informed people see me too?
Censorship reflects society's lack of confidence in itself. It is a hallmark of an authoritarian regime. ~Potter Stewart
Why can't look as good as some of the girls here when I'm dressed?
That's not really a peeve btw, just good old fashioned, green-eyed jealousy!
