ive been reading more and more threads here, going back as far as i can go, reading some month old posts. fear is a big concern for the cd community. makes us do or not do what we want. that being said, how powerful is the fear of being 'outed'? for me, its the number one thing im not sure i could live through at this time. i am a volunteer firefighter in my community, and realizing the possible dangers involved with that does not bother me in the least, being burned to death, smoke inhalation (suffocation), falling through weak floors and structures, pulling burned victims out of places, recovering childrens bodys after a bad auto accident, none of that keeps me from doing the job. but ask me to dress in public? wow, i will shy away from that in a heartbeat. rating this fear from 1 to 10, 10 being most feared, what are your biggest fears? dressing in public is my #10 .