Crossdressing-Private or Public?

[Stephanie]

I was kind of curious about how everybody enjoys their crossdressing, specifically is it satisfying enough for most people here to dress up privately at home or do most people here feel like they have to dress in public and be able to "pass" to better enjoy their crossdressing? I have yet to actually summon up the courage to actually go out crossdressed and I used to think that it would be enough for me to just dress up at home but recently I've started thinking more and more about wanting to actually go out in public eventually. Dressing up is nice, don't get me wrong, but yet it feels somehow vaguely unsatisfying just hanging around dressed up at home, especially by myself. It may be awhile before I actually do venture out in public and I'll probably need to discuss it with my wife first but, at least to me, part of the thrill of crossdressing is being able to show oneself off and attempt to "pass" as a woman. What does everybody else think?

[Sissy Stephanie]

I dress at home. I haven't been out in public in quite a while.

[caroline_cd_99]

I also dress at home, for now. I have told my wife I plan on going to a tri-ess meeting in September, and intend to dress and go out in public once a month.

[Sophie Haworth]

I ocasionally go out dressed, but for me passing is very important, if I go out and I am read, then it really does spoil my CD enjoyment, and it makes me stop dressing, because there seems no point to it if I cannot pass.

This is a link to my last time out, about 3 weeks ago today.

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...ead.php?t=7617

[Mia lynn]

I'm very much a newbie girl and just coming out as a girl. Up to now I've worn sexy lingerie and babydoll nighties at home. I do want to go out completely en femme and hope to do that soon. I do want to be able to pass as best I can so I've benn dieting and working on my makeup skills.
Hugs
Mia Lynn

[mand]

Hello Stephanie, I always used to think there was no way I could go out in public and show the world I'm a Tranny.
That was what I thought years ago anyway, but times change and so did my mind and now I am living as a woman virtually full time, the only time I dress as a man is if I go out with the wife, she asked me if I would do that so I agreed, but I hate it , that is however the only restriction on my dressing I allow. I say dressing but it's more than that it's my lifestyle, I simply live as a girl there is no man anymore.

As for passing, we all like to think we can pull off the passing in public thing, however in all honesty how many trannies have you seen that can actually pass. I have met a lot that think they do but they don't .
Don't get me wrong there are a lot of trannies around that are actually more attractive than some real girls but even so they still don't pass

If you want to go public Stephanie then do it and I promise once you get over the inital nerves you will love it, but don't rush it, take it step by step and small ones at that and prehaps the most important thing is to be carefull on the areas you go dressed, always be aware of you're safety.

love mand xxx

[Samantha Jane]

I stay dressed at home all the time, but would love to out in public, but I worried about not passing.

Did go out dressed once whilst away from home, but it was out driving. It was dark and the streets were virtually deserted. I briefly stopped at a park, where given the time of night, even the wild life were asleep and had a quick 5 minute walk. So I don't think that this outing really counts.

Samantha xx

[RachelDenise]

I think that at some point going out in public or at least interacting with another person is necessary for the pschye. I believe many of us need to share this side of ourselves to let out the "real" us. Keeping the feminine side hidden isn't what we want. Wehter passing in public satisfies that need depends on the individual. I would prefer more understanding from another who knows about my crossdressing rather than going out in public.

[Nisha]

I was kind of curious about how everybody enjoys their crossdressing, specifically is it satisfying enough for most people here to dress up privately at home or do most people here feel like they have to dress in public and be able to "pass" to better enjoy their crossdressing? ................ at least to me, part of the thrill of crossdressing is being able to show oneself off and attempt to "pass" as a woman. What does everybody else think?

I stepped into the outside world slowly. But by now, I have a compulsion to go out. If I am not seen by others, I don't enjoy it, I am not satisfied.

Shopping is my thing when en femme. I have gone shopping en femme in all kinds of shops. Interacted with people without any problems. Grocery shopping is my favorite.

Nisha.

[sara_also]

Going out in public, for me has two different meanings for me. I have been out several times in five years.I have always been with my wife and she has given me great support. We started with taking long drives up and down the hiways, Then graduated to a small group of wonderful people meeting once a month at one of their homes, for BBQ,s and some holiday gatherings. Most were members of GLBT. Not a lot of crossdressers, but that was ok because they always made us feel welcome. After moving to Sin City (Vegas) we have gone to the Casinos and have been out in the evening where the lights make everything as bright as day on the streets. It seems fairly easy tp pass here, as most are turist and in their own world, and there is no problem with blending because you will see people dressed in everything from short mini's to evening gowns. We have never had a problem, and if I have been read, we have never noticed.
Now, to the second meaning. I can go where there are a lot of people and do most things. "BUT" I can not go to my mail box to get the mail, I can not pull weeds in the yard, I can not sun bathe on my patio, I can not wash my car in my driveway while enfem. All of these things I can not do, because I dare not go out in public.
Just wondering if others are living in these two different worlds, as I am.
Have a great day, and enjoy what makes you Happy.

Sara_Also

[Wendy me]

the last time i went out was late sunday night /monday morning.. to a all night grocery store . when the mood hits me yes i go out , but for the most part being at home every day and dressing up is ok with me .... i can rember when a walk in the back yard at night was a rush....mostly now the only rush i get abought crossdressing is when i find that must have heels or outfit...... i think that most of the thirll of going out is we think that we are getting away with something.....once you get that so you just are going out dressed .... it's not that big of a thing ...till the blue lights come on behinde you....and the bigest thing to think abought is not weather or not you might pass...but rather if you are read ... just how safe you are ....before you stroll out the door think safty frist.....

[MelissaAndProudOfIt]

Crossdressing indoors does tend to be a lonely affair, as I endured it for a long time, though the thought of going out scared me... what would the local residents say. One night I was laying on my bed and thought if i wasn't to wake in the morning, would i have been happy with the way i lived my life ... to that point the answer was a definitive nope! My favourite quote " Life is not a rehearsal" I think how true is that. If you feel the woman within, goodness sakes let her out, apply comon sense and dress the best you can, overcome obstacles by facing them head on. If you cannot or don't want to dress locally, then have a weekend break away and spend it dressed! Lifes to be enjoyed, make the best of your life, as life is not a rehearsal ok.. hope this message helps... Otherwise there will come a time that you'd say to yourself "I wish I did!"

[BonnieJG]

I stay dressed at home all the time, but MAYBE would go out in public, but I worried about not passing.
I some times but on a bra only and go driveing at night

[Vivian Best]

Each of us have our individual needs and desires. As mentioned above some girls have the need to be seen and interact with people and probably do a good job. Others are just as thrilled to "just" go out of the house and I'm one of the latter. I think I'd probably be read in a heartbeat for several reasons. Therefore, I try to limit my exposure to people by doing things such as going to the drive through places to get something to eat or places where there are not many people. I love to go out, there is a thrill about doing it. Maybe it's the thought of someone recognizing me or just the mystery of being somebody other that who you are. It's fun and I love it and I would like to do it more.

Vivian

[MelissaAndProudOfIt]

When I was sort of new to dressing, obviously passing successfully was 110% on my mind. Well one particular day i was out dressed in town, I heard someone pass a rather un-polite comment, oops I had been read...Oh Oh.. thought I... I didn't know what to do... running was an option.. but message from brain never got to my legs and i froze. Then after that it dawned on me that the comment was aimed at some lady not at me ...phew relief.. some chap thought a woman walking behind me looked less convincing than me. only i knew this woman and she was a real one ok... So even real women get mistaken and don't always look convincing. So us crossdressers should worry less about passing, just do as good a job as we can. Not be complacent, just make as positive effort about appearance and start enjoying life to the full. After all heres another thought.. I reckon us crossdressers who go out are only the tip of the iceburg... many, many more men crossdress to some degree within the privacy of their own homes..... and try to hide it when out and about. there you have it in a nut shell..

[kammi]

I always dress at home never go out

[Jennifer_Ph]

Public or private - either way, there is never enough time!

[Katie Ashe]

I am perfecting my self in private and desire to go public, my first stop is the mall when I get a wig and some nerves. My wife says I got the make up thing going on, I now do both of our, it's easier for her. Do I need to go out for self grat, starting to feel so. I don't want to hide, it's starting to bother me. I think the mall is a good place to start, window shop and try on some shoes

Katie

[obsessedwithpantyhose]

i myslef have been wearing suntan pantyhose with shorts in public for a few yrs now,,, but for me i just want to wear skirts and heels all the time and the only way to do that around all those small minds is if u look like a female,

well for starters i HATE to shave my face so i always have some growth on it,, and why should we as cds always have to make sure we look nice when the real females dont give a shit about how they look in public,,
i would wear some lipstick and perfume and that would be it unless i was goin to the bar or out to dinner, then i would make myself look better..

[sammyd]

just private dressing here
someday... perhaps someday... but for now i'll stay in the closet

[Kimberly]

I have yet to actually summon up the courage to actually go out crossdressed and I used to think that it would be enough for me to just dress up at home but recently I've started thinking more and more about wanting to actually go out in public eventually.

That sounds exactly like me!!

I wanna go to college in the stuff the girls wear to it: a nice tight blouse, a jacket, a suit skirt, some tights and a nice pair of black pumps. But I can't. Why? Well..... other people.

I was actually dying to just go out in clothes the other day, I don't know why. But I just get so frustrated at not being able to express myself truly using the clothes I desire.

Coming out to everyone, and then dressing, probably isn't an option. Would cause far more sadness than it would happiness. Plus, I have a feeling the college would not let me wear that, as it is not in the dress code for my gender. (I had daydreams about taking it to the European Court for Human rights... blanket press coverage etc... Never gonna happen thoough. It will one day, and it will be just like the women's rights marches of the sixties, except less bra burning.)

[deanh22]

Just panties for me so can go out in public without fear

[Tina P Hose]

Just me and my pantyhose in the apartment, along with my other gear, skirts, dresses, soft silky panties and all the other girly stuff.

[pantywearer208]

first off i cant pass. i wasnt blessed with the ability to make myself look like a woman even with a ton of make up. i learned to accept this and sleep in nightgowns and wearing skirts or dresses i stay in. i do however wear panties 99.9% of the time (only wear mens going to doctors) so i am kind of dressed all the time. i have had on teddies under my clothes along with pantyhose. in winter, i wear nylon body suits and pantyhose as "long johns" as they keep the cold out and are not bulky and uncomfortable. people can see the sleeves of the body suit but dont realize what it is. i personnally feel like i read in a previous post that i wish i could wear what i want and not be considered a sicko. would love to be able to wear a beautiful dress and soft frilly petticoats all the time.
just something to add. some people are too critical of themselves and can be made up to pass. maybe not look like miss america but enough to make people see a woman. if you can do it go for it .

[eileen1969]

I was at home and done my dressing there but today I can choose to be either male/female! I go with my heart when I fist wake and if I choose to be Eileen or Ron! Its how I feel inside! The Power of chioce makes all the differance in my life and the world we share....