Originally Posted by
tess-leigh;1343406
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However, as someone who has experienced acute clinical depression, I have become more attuned to the symptoms of depression, so when I read in the original posting that "but lately, she forgets allot of stuff too, and seems to be more angry over everything", my dep-dar went off and I said to myself "That could be depression!" Either symptom by itself could have numerous other non-biological explanations, but the combination of the two together is intimately familiar to me. :sad:
....My depression was making me into the kind of person I didn't want to be, a harsh person upset with the world at the drop of a pin. There was no internal rational explanation for these mood swings: I'd be okay, and then suddenly I'd be crashed -- and with there being no explanation within me, I surely couldn't explain it to my wife or "make it up to her". And it [I
was[/I] usually something connected with my wife that triggered me, so I was being awful to her while still being a mostly nice guy at work. Frankly, I would not have blamed her if she had left me over my hair-trigger emotional states.
", "I'm tired right now", "I have something else to do"... always something. Even when I set my mind to it and started in on it, within two minutes I was feeling quite bad and had to really force myself to continue.
Could she be Depressed without knowing it? Oh Yes Yes Yes. I went through very close to a year of having a very hard time getting myself out of bed and facing the world, thinking "I'm just tired... or something, this will go away Real Soon Now",
If Jamie's wife is in fact Depressed, then it would be a very good idea for her to seek treatment for that depression. And my saying that is in no way an implication that she should "seek treatment for not accepting Jamie's CD/TG". One of the possible outcomes of treatment is that she might then be in a clear mind to decide that she definitely doesn't want anything to do with CD/TG -- or to be in a clear mind to negotiate the boundaries of what she can accept. That might be regrettable for Jamie, but that's life, and I am more concerned about the health of Jamie's wife than I am with whether she "accepts" Jamie's CD/TG or not. (No slight intended to Jamie!)