I've been debating posting this for a few days now but think perhaps it should be addressed. I'm well aware that many may not care and others will continue anyway but I have to try.
See, numerous times I've been asked if I have any GG friends that are as interested in Tgurls as I am. And indeed I did. But as I sent them to these forums they seemed to have lost interest. I had no idea why and assumed that when presented with the idea in reality, that it suddenly didn't appeal to them. Well, an email from the last person I sent here rather clarified things for me.
Seems she stumbled across a few threads that she took rather offensively. They talked about how CDers were more feminine than GGs, put GGs down for how they dress in today's society, or made statements that implied GGs aren't feminine or womanly enough and that the CDers are.
According to her email, she felt that there was too much competition and she had no desire to date anyone that couldn't accept her for who she was. She made several references regarding specific posts and stated that for a group of people who want to be accepted for who they really are, these posts reflected quite poorly on the whole. When I tried to argue that it isn't all CDers who felt that way, she made a hell of point in that no one corrected them except moderators. She stated that had she found one post in those threads that told the opposite view, not just a slight slap on the wrists, she would have considered staying. But she didn't and doesn't want to bother now.
How on earth are we suppose to bring others to accept and understand CDing even on a general level when these sort of posts not only continue to go up, but so few say a word to stop! Even if you DO feel that way, don't you realize how hurtful it sounds to someone else? How would you feel being told you would never pass? Aren't feminine enough? Aren't dressing how you are expected to? Don't you realize how conceited and snobbish you sound when you claim that a GG would be jealous of a good looking CD? How can you not realize how such statements affect how you are viewed as a person?
I don't live in a fantasy world in which everyone is perfectly PC or where no one disagrees with how other's live, dress or act. But I don't understand how or why, a group of people that wish the world didn't look down on them or discriminated against them, could do that very same thing to the gender they are emulating!
For those of you who don't do this and/or stand up to it, I applaud you for showing others the same respect you are requesting for yourself.