I recently attended my first group meeting of CDs and TGs. There were 2 f2m members, 8 m2f members and one GG guest who happened to be my wife. We all had a great time and the others said they hope she attends future events.
My wife sometimes dresses very feminine and other times wears jeans and sleeveless tops while working on home improvements. She actually does not dress very girly when helping the m2f crossdressers dress pretty or apply makeup. She does that so THEY can feel pretty.
Both men and women have dressy days and nondressy days. It isn't about masculinity or femininity. I feel feminine even when I dress as a man for work with only a bra and panties as women's wear. I dress like a woman, so I can look the way I feel. I feel like a woman no matter what I wear. And my wife feels like a woman no matter what she wears.
The posts that say that some m2f crossdressers make an extra effort to LOOK more feminine can be true of some people. My sister-in-law never wears makeup or dresses pretty unless she is going to a wedding or funeral. Some women dress up for work and dress down at home while others do the opposite. No one should take offense by what a few strangers say on this forum, especially since they are NOT the majority.
I can't say how many times I disagreed with people on this forum. Some people are so rude, wrong or confused that I have to avoid or leave discussions. My wife will not join THIS forum since some people really push her buttons. I have to agree with DD that this forum does turn away the GGs. They probably should have their own forum with their own moderators instead of reading our sometimes selfish posts.