This has been bugging me!!!

[Tina Dixon]

I'm not sure if this is the right place to post it or even if I should, but I'm a bit ticked about the picture area, and it has nothing to do with the Mods but us members, seems like if a gal posts her pictures and shes drop dead good looking she gets a ton of posts, now if a new gal posts a picture and shes just starting out and has aways to go she hardly gets any replies, also the hottie that has it down don't all ways seems to give replies, come on give all the girls equal time here please is all I ask, and yes I have found my self making this mistake all so in the past but I am far from the hottie stage, thats all I have to say.

[Emily Anderson]

If she's hot, she's hot. If she's not, she's not.

'nuff said.

[Tina Dixon]

If she's hot, she's hot. If she's not, she's not.

'nuff said.

Still deserves a reply.

[Angela-Russell]

Well said Tina. A little bit of encouragement goes a long way.

[TommiTN]

Don't you worry about it, Tina. You look good enough! I'd hate for anyone to see me right now. Scary! Just keep working at it, you'll get there.

[Holly]

...If she's not, she's not.

'nuff said.

And if she's rude.... Some people just don't "git it."

[renee k]

And if she's rude.... Some people just don't "git it."

Holly, I totally agree with you, being rude doesn't get you anywhere,or earn respect!

Renee

[Vieja]

I don't post much and when I do it is because of the content that the originator of the thread has put out. I enjoy looking at the pictures and thinking "WOW!" about some of them but I don't really think I have ever responded because I liked the avatar of the originator.

Vieja

[Mona]

I try to offer encouraging comments to new posters and usually will comment on a friend's photos. I remember the encouragement I got about my 1st photo post (which wasn't that great) and it made me want to try harder!

[Tamara Croft]

If she's hot, she's hot. If she's not, she's not.

'nuff said.

And comments like these don't help either, this is just rude

Tina I've been thinking this for a long time, I gave up posting in there tbh, because they were always shot down with all the people posting in threads that get loads of replies, but it was a waste of time, members tend to 'bump' up their own threads just to get them back on top, anyone would think it was a competition to see who could have the most threads on one page...

[Sherlyn]

Wow .... this is interesting ...think hmmmmm ..takes a break

[Deborah Jane]

Everyones got to start somewhere and it would seem that with encouragement in the first pics, people gain the confidence to try differant things and post further pics until eventually the shy newbie becomes a regular poster in the photo thread

Just my

[jamie55]

Hi Tina: I agree with you too, but I hafta say that it's a crap shoot. If you happen to post during a slow week you may not get many responses. On the other hand when there a lot of gals cruising you will most likely get more. When I posted I was tempted to "bump" it up every once in a while but refrained from doing so. Needless to say I haven't posted any since the first time. In many ways it's just like high school, All the pretty girls get all the attention and that's just human nature. We all want to be recognized and sometimes you just have to toot your own horn to get attention.

[Daintre]

I guess what keeps coming back to me is the fact that this is a support Forum, It is where we can learn, teach, and enjoy in a positive manner. I am not saying everything has to be rosy, but come on folks, when members post their pictures, surly we can give comments in a positive way. Remember, for some starting out this is a scary thing.

[Jonianne]

I saw a post today that was unbelievably critical of a new persons post and picture. I think we should be here for each other to support, not to intentionaly belittle someone.

[Sherlyn]

Everyone who feels this thread is hitting a nerve...back off on the picture posts for awhile and start supporting the others in the section for awhile ..It has hit a nerve with me and I'll be the first to start

[Aurora27]

If she's hot, she's hot. If she's not, she's not.

'nuff said.

It's very blunt, but she makes a fair point in a way. Of course those who look amazing are going to inspire a whole bunch of replies from people saying 'you look amazing', which in a way is fairly redundant. Not that I suport this in any way, which is why I never post in picture section, I figure if someone looks good I'll let the hundred other lemmings all say so. There are no pics of me because they would just be me in my one top (its green with a touch of lace), and everyone can see my face (and goatee) on my profile.

That said, it would be nice for the more experienced to offer constructive criticism to those who may not look quite as stunning as they might - its a bit heart wrenching to see someone who's tried hard get neglected because they're not as pretty as some.

[Bev06 GG]

It is a well known fact that men are very visual and looks really matter to them. This is something we women have had to put up with most of our lives, constantly being compared or criticised for the way we look and even being ridiculed (and not just by the opposite sex either) so welcome to our world.
It have to ask though, how many of you JUST went for looks when you were choosing a partner. I doubt very many of you. There is a whole lot more to being a woman than the way you look. Some of us were blessed with great looks and fantastic figures, some of us were not. Some of us are photogenic and some are not. So girls just remember when you are trying to emulate women, we are not all drop dead gorgeous, but we are all quite unique.

And Tina don't get disheartened Girl, i doubt if I posted in the picture gallery I'd get lots of wows and I'm the real mc coy, but the lack of responses wouldn't make me feel any less fem than I am.
Bev

[Deborah Jane]

And Tina don't get disheartened Girl, i doubt if I posted in the picture gallery I'd get lots of wows and I'm the real mc coy,
Bev

Yeah you would

[Bev06 GG]

Yeah you would

LOL thanks Deborah, you have a way with words.
Bev

[Tina Dixon]

And Tina don't get disheartened Girl, i doubt if I posted in the picture gallery I'd get lots of wows and I'm the real mc coy, but the lack of responses wouldn't make me feel any less fem than I am.
Bev

Oh I'm not disheartened, I just remember way back when I posted my first pic, no head no boobs hell I didn't even go by my name back then, and I would come on line and see if I got any coments and I'm sure thats what the new gals are thinking, oh yes I think you get a few replys if you posted your pics.

[Christine Kelly]

It is a well known fact that men are very visual and looks really matter to them. This is something we women have had to put up with most of our lives, constantly being compared or criticised for the way we look and even being ridiculed (and not just by the opposite sex either) so welcome to our world.
It have to ask though, how many of you JUST went for looks when you were choosing a partner. I doubt very many of you. There is a whole lot more to being a woman than the way you look. Some of us were blessed with great looks and fantastic figures, some of us were not. Some of us are photogenic and some are not. So girls just remember when you are trying to emulate women, we are not all drop dead gorgeous, but we are all quite unique.

And Tina don't get disheartened Girl, i doubt if I posted in the picture gallery I'd get lots of wows and I'm the real mc coy, but the lack of responses wouldn't make me feel any less fem than I am.
Bev

I agree with this.
Why should this forum be any different than how it is for GGs?
Besides, what Bev says about us all 'being unique' and that there is 'more to being a woman than just looks' is so true!
As Bev stated, 'Welcome to our world.'

[TGMarla]

First of all, Aurora, it's not very nice to refer to others as "lemmings" just because one tends to drop a one-liner in a thread letting that gal know you think she and/or her outfit looks good. I'd think that posting little supportive comments would be encouraged whether the poster is a knock-out or not.

I do not make a response to every thread that goes into the picture forum. But I do lend encouragement to the threads that show something worth commenting on, be it a really nice makeup job, or a good outfit, or both. Some have exercized creativity and experimented with alternative photography, such as black-and-white filters, etc., that make the pics more noteworthy.

I don't follow cliques, either. There are some on this forum who I like better than others, but that's the nature of friendships. But when one of us puts up pictures that really make a splash, that gets a load of responses, it's more often than not because that person put a lot of effort into the final result that made those pics remarkable. And I have no problem with those threads getting a huge response. If your thread gets little or no response, perhaps you could ask for some help as to what you can do to make yourself more presentable and appealing in your pictures.

I understand that some are a bit shy about showing their faces. But if you saw off your face, it takes away from your picture. I think it's fair to say that pictures showing someone who spent hours getting her face and her outfit ready are going to get a much better response than pictures showing someone in "girl jeans" with her head lopped off.

I encourage everyone to post pictures, but if you get a lousy response, look to the reasons why, and seek to correct it, if it's really all that important to you.

Hmmmpf! Lemmings, indeed!

[Brina Halloween]

And Tina don't get disheartened Girl, i doubt if I posted in the picture gallery I'd get lots of wows and I'm the real mc coy, but the lack of responses wouldn't make me feel any less fem than I am.
Bev

If the avatar is an indication...you would get a lot of responses.

I like the PM idea. I do wonder how many use that method to be "sensitive". Me, I need to locate it first. I haven't noticed a link to an inbox yet (I'll find it eventually)

One other thing, all the picture threads I have looked at were along the lines of "I took these pictures today" . I have not seen one yet that said "would you please help me improve my look". The type of response probably is a little dependent on the presentation.

Brina

[deja true]

Aurora's right...It is sad sometimes to look at the photo threads and not be able to offer encouragement. Many of us feel bad enough about our own looks and haven't a clue about how to give constructive counsel or advice to another. So we often just don't post at all. Most of us are sensitive enough to follow the old adage "If you can't say anything nice...then...". And most of us certainly don't want to publicly embarrass anyone by commenting negatively, even if it is meant to be helpful!

But Clarissa's got the answer! There are a fair few here who do indeed have it sorted. They have lots of experience and a terrific way with clothes and makeup. A PM, a personal, private message from one of the 'pros', offering advice and a hint or two would make a newbie's day. Any of us would love to get a personal message of encouragement from one of the photo section 'stars'. And this is a way to make new friends, too!

Could you do that, beauties? If you see a girl with an issue that you know how to fix, could you take the time to send her a note with some polite criticism and a helpful hint?

And not forgetting our supportive GG friends, too! Who better to advise a potential beauty than a natural beauty?