What prevents u from fully transitioning?

[KayR]

I suppose the answer may lie in the way we regard just what we do and any progress made. Most of us believe that we are on a journey. For me, my journey is towards perfecting my appearance - clothes, wig, makeup etc. I recognise that this is a superficial journey, but I dont know what else I will want to do after it. For others, it would seem that their journey is more specifically towards a more radical change - that of male to female on a permanent basis, either with or without surgery or drugs.
Perhaps, as in our careers and life plans we simply need to get to the destination in order to find out - call it kismet.

[Veronica 1]

If I had the money I would probably do it. I would love to be able to live and feel as a woman but at my age it probably will not happen.

[Amanda Shaft]

There's a saying: life's what happens whilst you're making other plans!
If things had been differant then maybe I might have, I know it makes me sad to think about what might have been so I try to accept what is. I think I need to think about this some more.
Amanda

[Dorothy]

The fact that I am a CD and not a transexual.

[JoannaCDSexy]

I've thought about it but i would never fully transform. There's too many risks. I would most likely lose my family and girlfriend whom i love very much. Im very happy being a CD.

[PaulaPts]

I think of it every day. I often wish I started years ago as it would be all over now. The hardest thing for me is finding a way to keep my career going. A girl has to make a living!

[angelfire]

I prevent myself from fully transitioning... cause I don't want to be a woman....

Pretty much the same thing here.

[PhillyGuy2Girl]

The only way I would do a full transition is that if I could go back to guy mode when I want or need to,plus I also love being a guy.But I know that can't be done, so I'm happy to be just a crossdresser.

Felicity

[Sara Jessica]

I would if I could but I can't so I won't!

Why?

The usual suspects, family + career = responsibility. My adoration of my wife & kids trumps my need to transition so I muddle through things the best I can.

I cannot help but think that had I known in my college days what I know now, I'd have transitioned back then. At that time, the only resource I had was the college library where all of the text on tg issues was highly clinical in nature. I was alone and the available information did nothing for me.

But...had I done so, I wouldn't have my wonderful family today so this is not to say I wish things would have played out for me to transition way back when. My life is what it is, all I can do is try to find balance and support.

[Babette]

Transitioning? No thank you because then I would miss out on the fun and excitement of crossdressing.

Babette

[AmandaM]

I would like to try. But, it's so hard now. Family, career, friends, mortgage. Geez, if I wasn't such a chicken when I was younger. I've always felt that transition is probably the best course. While attempting transition, I may have decided that I didn't want to go all the way, but I regret not trying.

[Claire3]

Just happy as i am.The best of both worlds

[Beth-Lock]

In my personal case, I ran into a lot of problems at the CD'ing in public stage, including bullying and even feared for my life. Due to my personal living arrangements, I can't simply walk away from it all.
Now the issue is that I do not seem to be able to pass well enough to make transitioning feasible anyway. Some posts here from the CD's not interested in transitioning, have tried to devalue our concerns with not passing, but in fact, it is a major worry for those wishing, at some level, to transition. Would I be afraid to go out, except in the evening, and little at all in summer, when my masculine origins would not be as noticeable, if I transitioned? That would not be much of a life.

[CharleneT]

Oddly... if I could I would dress every day**, but I have no interest in transitioning. I like the combo as it is. I have had day dreams about it, but they are just little fantasies.

Charlene

** especially if society would just accept me as is... but they won't arrrgggg...

[GailTulane]

Ah, Ladies. Ah, Ladies.
I would transition in a minute.
Nothing holds me back (OK, money, a bit ;-0) except my obligations to people that I love.
I long to be the person that I am, and to love as and be loved as the person that I am.
I am just trying to set up the people that I love in a responsible fashion, and then go fulltime and wherever that leads. Because I embarked on a life and career before I truly understood who I am, despite my deepest longings, my moral compass will not allow me to exit one life and begin another without taking proper care of my family and co-workers. That being said, I am working aggressively to achieve my goal.
Never am I happier, or more content than when I express myself as a woman, and I hope in the not-too-distant future to have a chance to do so, all day, every day, for the rest of my life.

[KimberlyS]

I would only want to transition for a few hours, the night, a few days or a week. Then transition back. So far they only seem to be able to do that in the movies. It would just be nice to have a more feminine body at times mostly when getting some more or full femme time. Otherwise I basically like who I am.

[Marvina Martian]

Nothing is standing in my way any longer....So you know what that means gurls? Yep, I'm starting on my path. Wish me luck gurls

[carolinoakland]

Well, for me what kept me from doing it was my own fear. And that fear was based on the limited info I had that let me believe that I would never be happy. But that's the fault of the popular media, and I bought right into it. I'm realizing that I've lived this male life in an effort to distract myself from accepting my feelings. Once I got to place's like this, and got out into the real world of Trans, and not the fetish side of it, I learned that there are many Transwomen who lead happy, productive lives, mostly becasue they are now in the right body for them. I have a lot of work to do to overcome the life time of deluding myself about my gender identity. It's not easy, but like one of the other posters said, I'm at the point that my fear of transitioning is being supplanted with the fear of a life not transitioning.

[Jessica212]

I contemplate transitioning all the time. A huge part of me wants to, but another part of me feels it would be better to hold back and remain a man, just one who dresses up as a woman often.

I'd love to live full-time as a woman. I'd love to be one of the girls, to be able to go anywhere as a female and not be hiding anything (or just go somewhere as a female for that matter - I've never left the house dressed even), and most importantly, to have the body of a female.

That said, I have a billion obstacles in my way. I have a girlfriend, career aspirations, a complete lack of any money whatsoever, a family who wouldn't accept me as a female (much less as a CDer), etc. It's just not feasible at this point in time, nor will it be feasible for many years to come.

If I had zero constraints on me, I seriously might transition, and I would want to start it soon, because I would love to be a woman while still in my 20s (I'm 19 right now). But that certainly won't happen.

It's something I think about all the time, and generally something that I seriously contemplate every single time I dress. But I know it's not happening, whether I want it to or not.

[nekrina]

What's preventing me from fully tranistioning...Well you see the thing is...

Oh wait i have already set a few wheels in motion to start transitioning

WOW.. I wish that

How do u do that at 18 y. Did u convince your parents to finance u or do u already have a job?

[kateyliz]

I think about it often, but beeing husband, dad, and grandpa are too important to me. Hugs, Kathy

[Joy Carter]

Ive always wanted to be female. But I never knew it was possable, when I grew up in the fifties and sixties. I now know I'll never be able to transition. With a loving spouse and two adult children, it just won't happen. I CD just because I know what I want, and know that I'll never be.

[Jessica212]

What's preventing me from fully tranistioning...Well you see the thing is...

Oh wait i have already set a few wheels in motion to start transitioning

I won't lie, I'm completely jealous! I really haven't heard of many people my age starting to transition.

[TGMarla]

Do u often / sometimes / or at least occasionally think and wish u could fully transition into the opposite sex.

If so. What are the major reasons that prevent u from doing it?

Well, there's the little fact that as much as I like "being" a woman, I'm not a transexual......

[nekrina]

Well, there's the little fact that as much as I like "being" a woman, I'm not a transexual......

Well yeah that's correct for some.

But isn't it already worth transitioning just for the sake of having peace from the constant urge to CD?