I am scared. Over the past few years I have gotten over much of the shame of being who I am and I am overall much happier as I embrace myself. For many years I identified as a CD. Recently I have changed to sometimes using transgender or t-girl which, to me, indicates that the dressing has more to do with the outside matching the inside than just the clothing.
I am on my 4th facial laser treatment and having significantly good results. I spent a week at a TG conference earlier this year and loved it. For the first time *ever* in my life I felt truly OK and truly part of a group.
Since then I have been having increasing desires to take it farther. Today I found myself starring at a woman's small breasts, with the thought "if I started hormones I may be able to actually have breasts like that." I have always sworn that I did not want to go any farther but what is happening to me? I feel like I am losing myself...I am so afraid...I am in between right now; not truly wanting to change to fully female but not wanting to stay male either...I do not seem to be fully comfortable in either role right now.
I have lost many relationships with wives and girlfriends largely due to my crossdressing. I am starting to see a new woman who knows about my crossdressing but I certainly do not want to tell her that I keep thinking about hormone treatments and more laser for other areas of my body.
What will happen to my work? My relationship with my family? I am scared of losing my ability to perform sexually as a male. I am not attracted to men but I am not really attracted to women either.
I am so afraid of what is happening to me. I just don't know what to do and I don't know who I am. In some ways it was easier when I was a closeted crossdresser living 99% of the time in guy mode. That was largely miserable too.
It feels like I need to make a decision to stay as a CD, or move more into TG or even TS, and find a way to accept whoever I am. It is so scary to let this stuff out. I feel so alone. I feel so lost. I feel so hopeless.