I want to first say that I've been looking around here before I registered and waited a few days after registering before I considered posting. This is my first thread but my second posting...I've got some questions that I want to ask and a story to tell I guess.
First I started like a lot of the others here. I was about 5 and was curious as to why my Mom wore different stuff under her clothes than I did or what I'd seen my Dad wearing. In the bathroom I'd go through the dirty clothes basket and see bra's and panties and being curious, it got the best of me. So one day when I thought I was safe, I ventured into my parents room and went through my Mom's underwear drawer. I got caught wearing a pair of black lace panties, Mom caught me, and just told me I couldn't be doing that sort of thing.
Fast-forward through a few years of sneaking them anyway. I got older and bigger to the point where I could wear everything my Mom had in her closet and I didn't have a sister to raid her stuff. I'm aware of the wearing stuff without asking or having permission thing but I was only a kid and you don't even think of that respect level then. So when I was home alone I would dress in all her stuff that I could wear. I enjoyed it and I felt normal and comfortable in it, it was like the stuff was meant for me to wear just as much as it was for her.
Ok let's skip a few more years ahead. I got bigger than my Mom and very few things fit at this point which left mostly bra's, panties and hose. Now without being to explicit it came to the point that it was more of a sexual turn-on than anything else and usually afterwards I would have to rush to take the stuff back off. This has been the case up until a few years ago after being married for some time as well.
I don't consider myself to be gay or attracted to guys period. I love my wife very much but I can no confide in her about my dressing habit or whatever it is. I don't know why I do it or why I feel so much more comfort from being dressed in girlie stuff. My wife WILL NOT support this part of me. She knows I've wore a few of her things, which after finding out she threw them away. Then later I get mixed remarks about it being ok if I wear her bra but then within minutes I get a weird look from her when I admit I did have it on. I can't sit down with her and tell her the truth about what I do or why I do it. Mostly can't tell her why cause I don't know myself that I feel so compelled to wear female stuff.
Has anyone else been through such as this? Is it normal to feel this way or do I have issues that I need help with? I have always wished I was born a girl and even prayed at night that when I woke up I'd be a girl...hasn't happened yet however. How did you tell your SO and what was her reaction when she first found out? Do the SO's read this section too? If they do then I'd like to hear how they felt. I'm on the brink of wanting a divorce just so I can be Kayla when I feel that she is wanting 'out'. Some material or answers I can not post here because of fear of my wife finding this place and seeing it. I'm very much in the closet, very scared and lonely.
I see so many of you with supporting spouses and I envy you. I see many of you that are very "passable" (used loosely) and I envy that as well. Right now I'm just at the bra and panty stage again with the occasional panty hose/thigh highs. Sad isn't it?