Just got caught recently and they told everyone I know!!!

[Nicole Erin]

One of those GD camera phones.
I imagine, I am just guessing, most people have one? Anyways if YOU do,
Show them a picture of the back of a truck with a trailer hitch and say "Hey look at that hitch...."
Even if they ARE gone it would still be funny. Maybe show them a photo of a door with an "Exit" sign above it...

And why would they do this to you if you are letting them use your property? Have they not heard of "Don't poop where you eat"?

Anyways even if people ARE asses about this, look at it this way - they will get over it pretty quick. They may or may not like you after but it will quickly become old news and they will want something fresh.

[karynspanties]

Personally......you are helping them out by letting them live in your yard in a camper. Then they have the b@*Ls to betray you like that? If it were me....they would be gone right now. No excuses. Hook up that trailer and haul there trailer trash butts outta there. I would have given them one hour to leave or I would have hooked that sucker up and yanked it out myself. Those are not friends, those are users. They need to go!

[PamelaTX]

OK, I realize I didn't answer your real question in my last post, but really hon, the only thing you can do now is just "brazen it out!" Don't hide, don't apologize, just say "Yes, this is my dress! Yes, this is my yard! And yes, I'm going to wear my dress in my yard any time I feel like it!" If people snicker behind your back, face them down with a comment like, "If you looked as good in a dress as I do, you'd wear one all the time!"

I'd like to think that your true friends will treat you the same as always, but there are some real jerks out there too. (As you may have noticed.) They're just waiting for any sign of weakness to start the "feeding frenzy." Don't give them the opportunity!

Just my two cents worth!

All the best, dear!

[Annaliese]

After letting your so called friend stay at your place and then thay do that to you, send them packing.
You can do one of two things fess up or move. I would stay, lift you head high and be proud show now fear.

Hugs Anna

[Shelly Preston]

Hi tiffany

Sorry to hear you were caught but I cant believe your so called friends

This is not the way for them to reward your kindness by letting them use your yard. I am not impressed by their attempt at an apology. Its just a shame they did not think about their actions first

[Tiffany Love]

Thank You my friends for all the honest input. I have felt all that you have told me in your post. And I feel that I have reacted and acted appropriately. I know that they know that they acted inappropriately towards my privacy on my property. I already feel accepted by the people, in my community, that I feel know what these people accused me of. It does not matter what anyone thinks. I have true friends, here and where I came from, that accept me for me. Who trust me and loves me for me and what I believe in. I also believe my brother knows, has probably known for years, that I have an alternate lifestyle but just keeps it to himself because he loves me.

[Sheri 4242]

Well, first I am glad that they are gone from your property as that was an inexcusable thing they did to you. The advice you are being given is right on: hold your head high! Your true friends will still be there regardless -- many won't even remember all the details in a few weeks, just that you are a good friend. Many a time one who outs one of us is the one who gets the short end of the stick in public opinion. Some wife who was divorcing her cd'ing husband tried to use it in court to get control of the children and the court told her that his being a cd had nothing to do with him getting or not getting custody (which he did get).

[Shelly67]

Keep youre chin up . just be you , don't rise to the offensive occassion if it happens , stay true to you , you don't need any excuses or to play into anyones " ideas" of how you should behave in life . Be proud of who you are . I mean who are you hurting ??
Then kick , those so called " friends " to the gutter . But do it in an adult manner . Just kindly ask them to leave . If it were me , I'd then cut all ties with them .
You should never bite the hand that feeds .
I,d put all those negative feelings you probably have right now into a positive venture towards youre partner and concentrate on keeping each other happy with great support.

Good luck.

[Very Sherri]

One option:

"I was letting some friends of mine stay in my yard. Friends of mine wouldn't show pictures around and claim that the pictures were me without my permission. I would expect friends of mine to apologize and try to repair the damage if they did something like that. I reckon that anyone who wouldn't apologize immediately could not really have been a friend of mine. I reckon that people who were staying in my yard as friends but who turned out not to be friends, would not be the people I allowed to use my yard. I reckon that if people I didn't know were staying in my yard, that they would have to move out pretty much as soon as they could pack up."

My thoughts EXACTLY.

[Karren H]

No denying a photo!! I'd just assume everyone knows... so shy deny it... May be a good time to start going out enfemme

[Katrina]

Go up to them and ask if they have a problem with it. If so, then get the heck off my yard!

[Gurly]

These people are friends? Although I can understand their desire to tell others of your secret (we are human after all), they had NO right to out you like that. Shame on them. Sorry it had to happen to you.

[Angie G]

What a bitch to take a pic of you and then show it around. And he is an a--hole. nDepending on how close to the house the camper is I'd probably set it on fire. I know at least they would be down the road.I hope you don't get bad fallout from this hun.
Angie

[Cathytg]

I agree with the majority. It would be foolish to try to deny what is true anyway.

However, you should ask yourself how you really feel about dressing in your life. If you deny it, what does that say about your own acceptance of CD? You really must go with your own feelings in this, but please think hard about what those feelings actually are. More to the point, consider how you feel about CD and yourself. You can deal with the rest of the world only after you have met yourself.

[lil red]

Let me start by saying that I haven't read any other replies, just comenting here. If you are happy being who you are then you have no reason to deny it or to feel ashamed of yourself or what you do. I just recently decided that I am who I am and if someone don't like it it sucks to be them. If your friend like you then they will accept this side of you. If you are confronted I say tell the truth, be proud of yourself. As far as the friends in the backyard go, you can suprise them by walking up to them enfem and saying thanks for helping me come out.

[Melinda G]

You have very few real friends in life, and many aquaintances. I guess you found that out. If you are a CDer, and want to keep it in the closet, trust no one! Many, if not most people have big mouths, and love to gossip. Someone who may be your "friend" today, may not be next week, or next month. As I've posted for the umpteenth time, a little common sense goes a long way. And once the Genie is out of the bottle, you can't put it back in!

Just a comment on a couple of the other posts. I am comfortable with my CDing, and it gives me immense pleasure, and has for most of my life. I am not ashamed of it, in any way. However, I am not "proud" of it, nor do I have any intention of flaunting it, or coming out to anyone. It is just something private that I enjoy.
For most of us, CDing is sexually driven. You wouldn't think of telling your friends that you masterbate, or watch porn, or whatever else you do. So I am always at a loss to understand why so many of you feel the desire or need to "come out" or be proud of your CDing. I always say to just enjoy it for what it is, and keep it private. You never know when it may come back to haunt you, in a new relationship, or employment, or other situations, where it may compromise your position.

Dr Phil has left the building.

[PhillyGuy2Girl]

When it comes to my family & friends. I never see them when I'm dressed femme nor do I ever intend to go out with them dressed,so why even tell them?.

I have one friend who loves to gossip and telling him anything especially about CDing I might as well just put it up on a sign in Times Square.

Felicity

[Joy Carter]

Admit if asked. But I think you mistook these people in the camper as friends. I'd kindly ask them to leave.

[Melinda G]

Admit if asked. But I think you mistook these people in the camper as friends. I'd kindly ask them to leave.

I think I'd tow the camper out in the street, myself, and leave it there. Then call the cops, and report an abandoned camper.

[susan fuller]

I agree with PamalaTX that these were not friends and it is like taking a picture of you naked. They have exposed your inner self and feelings to the world without regard of how it would effect you. You have said that they are gone and you should let them know that you don't need friends like them. I would just wait and see how people act about this before doing anything. If someone brings up the situation and ask questions just be yourself and be honest with them. A true friend won't judge you but accept you for who you are. Best of luck, we are all hear for you.

[Genifer Teal]

It is not a nice thing that they did. At this point there is not much you can do but own up to it, if anyone asks. Better you tell it like it is than they use their own imagination. In general it is usually turns out better than you fear once the dust settles. Then you can be out and proud or at least not as scared to hide it.

As for the camper, I cetainly hope that it is sent on it's way. It goes with out saying they have overextended their welcome.

Gen

[victoriamwilliams1]

You cannot deny the photo, however you can deny the power to keep the camper running or better yet dress and walk right in and show them real life is better than a photo.

[Wendy me]

what i would do is when they are gone burn the camper...........

[Joy Carter]

A saying comes to mind in this situation.

"Cutting Your Nose Off To Spite Your Face."

I'm not particularly vindictive, But you kicking them out onto the street, would be poetic justice.

[Glenda]

Well Girl, I'm sorry it happened to you. Don't be vindictive and don't be ashamed. I hope you'll find (like I did) that people will treat and respect you the same way they did before. There may be a couple of jokes, but please keep your sense of humor. On the bright side......I guess you're going en femme for Halloween this year? You might as well show people that you're not ashamed of it.