For years I have seen stories - mine included - wherein CDrs talk about overcoming the shame of dressing. At the risk of sounding like I am splitting proverbial wig hairs here, I would like to suggest a different word.
If I am ashamed of something, I feel that I have done something wrong which usually means that I ought to do something to "make up for it". Goodness knows, I have been there with dressing for a great many years when I thought that I must be a very bad person to so violate the laws of God and my Catholic Church. I think that clothing purges were a result and became my way of "making up for it". Kinda silly but I was a mere child of 40.
On the other hand, if I am merely embarrassed, There is no burden and I can simply put it aside. That is how I can feel now about my dressing. I would rather not be exposed because I would feel awkward unless I remembered not to be which I can do. But there is no guilt and, therefore, no shame. I can spill coffee on myself and be embarrassed but certainly not ashamed.
Shame has a long life span but embarrassment lives only in the moment.
So, I wonder how many times we used the word shame when we really meant embarrassed? They are just words but they imply a huge difference in the way we feel about ourselves.