Emailed my daughter and told her about my cross dressing.

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

This evening, just a few minutes ago I emailed my daughter to tell her my secret, that I'm a cross dresser. I've wanted to do this for several months now but something this evening made me tell her.

She called me to tell me about her New girlfriend, which was a slight shock at first to hear about. But I love my daughter and will always love her, I can't judge her and will accept her always. I will accept whoever she decides to be with.

After this phone call I had such a strong desire to reveal my Cross dressing to her that I sent her an email. It has been sent, with pictures etc and a link to this site for her to visit. I am so scared as to how she will respond, but think she will be accepting of this part of me. Will let all my sisters know how it goes.

Here is the email message I sent:

I want to thank you for calling me and trusting me enough to tell me about your girl friend Melissa, it must have taken a lot of courage to tell your parents about this relationship. I want you to know that no matter what, I love you and that will never change. Both you and Melissa will always be welcome in my home. To be truthful, I will be a little uncomfortable at first, like all dads they would like their little girls to grow up, get married and have children. I always believed that in time this would happen, but I want you to know that I support you both. I can only love you and accept you both. I look forward to hearing more about Melissa and someday meeting her.

For myself, I’m neither bisexual or gay, no matter what your mom may say about me. As my signature below shows, I do have a secret to reveal, which I feel whose time has come to tell you, I am a cross dresser and have been to some degree, since my early teens. I think that you have already suspected this, probably your mom said things to you at times or maybe you noticed that there wasn’t a lot of men’s underwear in the wash. The cross dressing doesn’t make me gay, when dressed I feel like the person I should have been, a woman. I was never able to explain these feelings to Laurie, I hope that you will understand and accept this part of me. I will always love you and be your father and will be here to answer any questions you have. And no I am not ever considering changing my sex. I get along with women very well, since I think more like a woman, but dressing as a woman makes it difficult to have a relationship, one on one with woman. If you have any questions you are more than welcome to ask. I am a member of www.crossdressers.com , my screen name is Kimberly51. The site offers me a place where I can explore & discuss my feelings with other people like me, you are welcome to visit and search on my screen name. I have attached some pictures to quell your curiosity.

There is one request I make, don’t tell your mom about this part of me as she will tell everyone and this will not be good. Not knowing how you will react, I am scared and apprehensive letting you know my secret but I feel it is the right thing to do. I love you very much.

Say hello to Melissa for me and let her know that she is accepted by me. I will say goodnight and again, I love you, Kimberly aka Dad

[PamelaTX]

That's a great letter. I hope she understands, and that everything goes well for you.

[Tracii G]

You put it all out there in a very to the point letter. Well done Kimberly.
I don't think I could do it.

[justmetoo]

Best of luck. Please let us know how it goes. (If she's anything like her father I'm sure all will be well!)

[susanmichelle]

I agree with the others a very nice open and honest letter to your daughter. You put it all on the line and was truthful and left the communications open for her to stay hopefully comfortable with you and your feelings and also have pointed out to her that you have open arms and a open heart for her and her new girlfriend as well. I hope her reply will come soon and be what you want. She should be open minded enought to understand I would think. So good luck and best wishes on it going positive.

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

Don't know what was going on, tried to send the email and it wouldn't go. I sent other emails as test, but the one I was sending her just wouldn't send. Beginning to think it wasn't meant to be, but copied and pasted the contents into another new email and that one sent.

I will let you all know what her response is when I get it..thanks for the nice comments. Luv you all.

[Karen C]

grate letter I don't think I could have done any better .
best of luck It sounds like you have a grate relashionship.
you must be verry proud of her . I would be .

[debbeelee1]

Great letter Kimberly! I sincerely hope everything works out between you and your daughter and I don't see why it shouldn't!

[Angie G]

Very nice letter to you daughter your a good dad and I think she will be OK with your news
Angie

[Stephanie Stephens]

WOW. Very well done. I have have also considered telling my daughter but haven't found a burning need to. I will be watching this thread with interest.
I wish you the very best of luck and I do believe that it will work out very well because it is obvious that there is a lot of love between you two.

Steph

[Tamara Croft]

If she's anything like my daughter, pretty much open to things, she'll be fine :x Let us know how things go And to add, what a great letter

[CD Susan]

Kimberly, that was a very well composed letter that you sent to your daughter. It could not have been any better. I have the feeling that she will be accepting of you and I pray that this happens. You did not state how old your daughter is but I get the feeling that she is an adult. Our children can surprise us at times and be very understanding and supportive of these things. This was the case with me when my son learned about me. He was only nine years old when his mother told him about me during the divorce. We disscussed it when he was 16 and he was o.k. with it. Please keep us up to date on your situation. All of us here are hoping this works out for you.

[Vivian Best]

Very well done Kimberly! I too hope she is as understanding of your cross dressing as you are of her life style. Good luck to both of you.

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

But not to worry, she doesn't always check her email everyday like her dad does. But I wait anxiously for a reply and will let my sisters know how it goes. For now I'm waiting on pins and needles.

[Caitlintgsd]

Congratulations! I told my son about myself right after he told me that he's bi and had a crush on a guy. He completely accepted it and we've gone to a few Pride festivals since then.

[Di]

But not to worry, she doesn't always check her email everyday like her dad does. But I wait anxiously for a reply and will let my sisters know how it goes. For now I'm waiting on pins and needles.

Hon sending you good vibes She is like me .....my kids get upset with me cause I sometimes don't get to my email for days on end.Let us know

[Crystal Alberta]

It's great to see parents supporting their children unconditionally. After responding so positively and respectfully to your daughter's revelation, it's hard to imagine her not responding the same way to yours.

All the best,
Crystal

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

Things go well with my daughter, I may muster the courage and go for broke and tell my son about my Crossdressing. He is 2 years younger at 22 yrs old and living on his own. If I am able to tell my son and he accepts me for me, that would remove the stress of hiding the person I am from my family. Continue to pray that my daughter responds favorably to my email.

Again, thanks for all the good wishes, compliments and your love shown in all your posts. It means alot to me.

[Sally2005]

You might want to follow-up with a phone call or in person. She might have some questions or not know how to respond. I hope all goes well.

[cdmindymi]

Very well done kimberly. I hope it works out for you and Vicky, I am sure it will. best of luck to you both.

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

For those who remember this old TV soap. Anyhow, got a reason to legitimately call my daughter tonight. Called her to tell her that my son, her brother threw his girl friend out of their rented house. It appears that she has slept with her ex boyfriend and his friends told him about it. My son is devastated, he cares alot about her, but it appears from talking with him, this is not the first time she may have cheated on him. He also knew that she had cheated on previous boyfriends going into the relationship, but thought it would be different with him as he doesn't abuse her etc. (he's 22 yrs old)

The advice I gave him is this to either forgive her and to work things out with her or determine that since she has a history of cheating with him and previous boyfriends, to let it end and go forward. I will be calling him back later tonite.

In the meantime, also asked my daughter to check her email and call me back to talk. So maybe, I'll have a response tonite.

If anyone has words of advice regards my son and his relationship troubles you can PM me.

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

She finally got my email and responded and the response was more than I expected.. I wish I choose to do this so much sooner. Here it is below:

Dad,
I am so elated that you have finally told me that you are a cross-dresser. I have known for a very long time, i guess about 15 years old. I became okay with it a year after I figured it out. I am totally okay with it completely and fully. I want you to be happy and I want you to do what you want. I was so glad that you went to work on Hallloween last year in full drag in front of your co-workers. I was so freaking proud of you. Remember that time we went to arby's a while back , well last time i was home. well there was a lady there, an older woman that was staring at us because you were in spandex. you walked to the table and stopped in front of her and turned around and looked at her for a while. I said "are you happy?" she stopped right away and kept to herself. I realized at that point that I am here to support you. I love you very very much and am so glad that you love me like I do you. It could be so much worse, you could be a drug addict or absent. This fine with me. I love you and want you to know it. It may be a little wierd looking at pictures but, it makes my life interesting and more real. Thank you so much. Please know that you can always be frank and honest with me and I will always love you.

Victoria


It's amazing how something like this can take the fear and stress out of you so instantly. For those with adult children consider letting them in on your secret, they probably already know. Love to everyone who encouraged me and supported me, thank you for your encouraging replies to my posting. They are appreciated.

[Shelly Preston]

Thats great news Kimberly

[emmicd]

I think it's positive you opened up to your daughter through a letter. The only thing is I would have hand written it and sent it for only her to read. Sometimes it's not good to share it with others until your loved one can come to understand and express her feelings first.

It is well written and clearly thought out.

Good Luck!

emmi

[Darlene-VA]

Glad that it all worked out for both of you, a wonderful read and you wrote an outstanding letter.