Perhaps relating my experience might help:
When I was in Jr and Sr High school my emotions were quite bottled up. By the time I was a senior I came across as so self satisfied that many people would do things to try to get my goat. (Once someone "borrowed" my trombone and later it was found in the band director's office with the slide having been bent over someones leg (or whatever)) I didn't noticed at the time that people were doing this, it was just a part of life.
When I was first engaged, I was surprised at the emotions that it let loose. I suppose in retrospect that I attributed some "normal" emotions to being in love.
As time went on I'd find myself tearing up at movies when other's didn't seem to be moved, etc. I went to a couple of different counselors/psychiatrists only to discover that I was just becoming more normal(Not their words.)
I've come to believe that I've always been more empathetic than most guys and that with all of the emotions that come with puberty I just couldn't take it. It took a while to see this because often when I'd properly guess people's problems they'd deny it and I'd take their denials at face value discounting my ability to understand people. I slowly realized that there are a lot of reasons people might not want to talk about their problems and that I needed to be more careful and pay better attention to if, when and how I should try to help. Also I've slowly learned that guys usually try to fix problems and that's not always what gals want when they talk
I'm rambling so I'll quit with this:
Good luck recognizing and integrating all of your own gifts into a whole person. I hope it takes you less time than it did for me
